We rely on love to comfort us and to make us feel comforted.
Due to our dependency on love, the loss of it is the most painful.
This is the reason why most of us felt that breakup hurts us a lot.
When we were in a relationship, we become dependent on our partner as a source of love.
Now that he has walked out of the door, the experience made us realize that we had depended on love until it was taken away from us.
To find relief and heal your broken heart, you need to understand how attachment of love works and how to let go of the past.
Attached to your relationship Before you get into a relationship, your source of love may mainly come from friends and family embers.
Then, your partner becomes another source where you derive the supply of love from.
Over time, you slowly turn to your partner as a main source for love.
When this happens, an attachment is created between you and your partner.
This means that you solely rely on your partner for love and his love is more important to you than anyone else.
This is because appreciation from your partner is the most meaningful for you.
This kind of attachment makes you convinced yourself subconsciously that you will never be able to love another again or that no one else can give back the same 100% amount of love like the love you and your partner exchange.
When you become so emotionally attached to your partner and you broke up with your partner, it is why the situation hurts you so much.
Since you have placed so much dependency on your partner's love, the loss of it magnifies the pain for you.
Letting it go Letting it go is not an easy task and it takes time.
What you basically do is learn to fill yourself up by removing the attachment and find love from other sources, which are your friends and family.
Instead of giving up just because your ex partner no longer supply love and support to you, you can still derive it from elsewhere.
The most important thing to do that can help you to start seeking for love is to release the old attachment.
Without releasing the dependency, you are not allowing yourself freedom to seek love.
Start opening up with yourself and tell yourself that love can be from anywhere and anyone.
You have not lost everything and you still have chances to find love.
Fill your broken heart and the loss of love in you with love from other sources.
You will realize that once you allow yourself to receive love, you will be stronger and will no longer feel the emptiness.
Instead of forcing yourself to forget your partner and avoiding the hurting feelings, try to remember your partner.
You can even hold on to the memories and bring up the thoughts of remembering all the sweet memories with your partner, your gratitude for your partner's gifts, how much you want and wish for your partner to come back to you.
This process may seem brutal and cruel to yourself but it helps you to release your attachment, grieve and to remember the relationship you shared with your ex as a special event of your life.
Now that you understand why your breakup hurts, you can start slowly and gently to release your attachment and let yourself to heal.
Surround yourself with supportive people around you and spend more time to love yourself as well.
At the beginning, the healing process will bring on a lot of emotions such as anger, sadness and sorrow.
But as you let yourself heal, you will no longer feel the pain of losing your partner.
Only then, you will find yourself to ready to find and believe in love again.