Going through a break up can be really tough.
Most of us react badly when we are told the relationship is over and do all the things in normal circumstances we would not do.
If your relationship with your wife has just broken up then this might stop you from making things worse.
Do not ring your wife up, or send hundreds of emails begging for her to take you back.
Put yourself in her position, she has made a decision to break up your marriage but probably is a little bit concerned if she has have done the right thing.
She then gets swamped with emails, voice mail and texts begging her to reconsider or laying blame or promises that you will change.
Immediately she feels harassed and that she did the right thing.
Even if you did make all the mistakes in the beginning you can still change things dramatically.
What if you approached things differently? She did not hear from you, but she heard through friends that you were doing great.
This is going to have her thinking about you and what if she had made a mistake.
Go one step even more.
Let her know that at the moment you agree with the break up.
This will be the complete opposite of what she expected.
A good way of doing this if she is not taking your calls is to write her a hand written letter explaining that she was right, a break up was the right thing to do.
In the meantime do all the things you have been putting off.
Go back to the gym, women like men who take pride in their looks.
Buy those new clothes she was always encouraging you to wear but you thought were not for you.
Humans all want what they cannot have, and if she feels that you are moving on quickly she is going to be having second thoughts.
Now is the time to work out your complete plan.