Don"t Break Up to Make Up
There's the old saying that the best part of a relationship breaking up is the making up but some people take this too literally and actually initiate a break up without any reason because they believe this old wives tale.
Let's see why this isn't a good idea...
1.
The relationship break up might end up permanent If you purposely break-up with your boyfriend or your husband because you think getting back together will be really fun you might get a nasty and unwanted shock.
Your boyfriend might just decide that anyone who finishes a relationship on such a trivial excuse isn't worth being with in the first place.
2.
You are displaying your emotional insecurity People who constantly ends a relationships with someone they love are usually only trying to test the other persons commitment to the relationship.
This is often a sign of emotional insecurity on the part of the person causing the break up.
An emotionally insecure person can make things very hard for the other partner because it puts constant pressure on them and eventually becomes too draining emotionally.
This may make your boyfriend want to move on and if you initiate the ending of the relationship you may just be playing right into his hands.
3.
You will be seen as a bad person by others Although you are told not to worry what other people think of you, and this is often good advice, it is only useful if you are considered a nice person.
People who end their relationships for trivial reasons will be perceived by the people around them as unstable, untrustworthy and generally not nice and this will affect how they treat you.
We all know that the popular people are the ones who appear to be emotionally stable, are reliable and dependable, and fun to be around.
All in all not the sort of person most people want to know let alone get in a relationship with.
However, if you do find yourself in a break up situation, whether you caused it or not, you can dramatically improve your chances of getting the 'making up' you so want by following some simple steps.
But you must take this action immediately after the break up or your chances of getting back together with your boyfriend or your husband will diminish rapidly.
Let's see why this isn't a good idea...
1.
The relationship break up might end up permanent If you purposely break-up with your boyfriend or your husband because you think getting back together will be really fun you might get a nasty and unwanted shock.
Your boyfriend might just decide that anyone who finishes a relationship on such a trivial excuse isn't worth being with in the first place.
2.
You are displaying your emotional insecurity People who constantly ends a relationships with someone they love are usually only trying to test the other persons commitment to the relationship.
This is often a sign of emotional insecurity on the part of the person causing the break up.
An emotionally insecure person can make things very hard for the other partner because it puts constant pressure on them and eventually becomes too draining emotionally.
This may make your boyfriend want to move on and if you initiate the ending of the relationship you may just be playing right into his hands.
3.
You will be seen as a bad person by others Although you are told not to worry what other people think of you, and this is often good advice, it is only useful if you are considered a nice person.
People who end their relationships for trivial reasons will be perceived by the people around them as unstable, untrustworthy and generally not nice and this will affect how they treat you.
We all know that the popular people are the ones who appear to be emotionally stable, are reliable and dependable, and fun to be around.
All in all not the sort of person most people want to know let alone get in a relationship with.
However, if you do find yourself in a break up situation, whether you caused it or not, you can dramatically improve your chances of getting the 'making up' you so want by following some simple steps.
But you must take this action immediately after the break up or your chances of getting back together with your boyfriend or your husband will diminish rapidly.
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