It has been one of those fairy tale movies, hasn't it? Everything is just going right and you're the happiest you've ever been in the longest time.
You have a beautiful woman that stands beside you, through thick and thin.
You have a great job and you're happy working there.
You have your golf clubs, and you indulge a little bit every now and then at the golf course.
But she doesn't think so...
her life has become boring and she's tired of the same routines.
She has tried to keep it inside and has not let you know what has been lacking inside of her.
She finds that everything is dull and worse, she's finding that she's not in love with you anymore.
She's at that point, where she doesn't really care anymore, and she feels that she needs a change.
She's indifferent.
And now she's come to the point that she realizes she needs a change.
And you're part of that change.
You didn't do anything to keep the flames lit, and now she's about to extinguish it...
And now she's gone.
She called yesterday to tell you that she doesn't feel it anymore.
That things needed to change and that she's going to take some time to herself to figure herself out.
What that really means is that she's going to start finding new hobbies, meeting new people, and trying to date new guys.
New guys? What, were you really that bad? Don't worry, everyone has gone through this situation before.
It's a part of life that'll never escape any of us.
Sure, we all had our high school and college dramas.
And you would think that you'd learn from that by now.
But unfortunately, the same cycle repeats itself, over and over, even as an adult.
You start asking questions, "what did I do wrong?" and "how'd this happen?" and ultimately you present the question to yourself, "hmm, how do I get an ex back...
" Well, here's what I've learned about how to get an ex back.
Basically, you must do the opposite of what everyone else tells you to do.
There are a lot of mis-beliefs that you need to woo them again.
That you need to turn up the romantic wick on them to make them feel attracted to you.
Some will even tell you that it's a great idea to buy really expensive gifts like diamond necklaces and take them to expensive dinners.
I'm here to tell you that this does not work very well! The problem with this approach is that it shows you're willing to be a door mat to get her attention.
That you'll act like a dog as long as she's willing to love you again.
Do you really want to be a dog? This is what drove her away from you in the first place! Here's what you really have to do, to win her back.
Forget everything that you think works.
There's an old Chinese proverb that "only an empty cup can be filled.
" You must be ready to be an empty cup.
You need to dump out what you know about yourself, and reinvent yourself.
Until you're ready to do so, you will go nowhere.
Empty your cup, right? Good, lets move on.
So how do you get an ex back, right? Easy...
Ignore her! That's right! You need to ignore her and show her that you don't need her.
The problem that you've been doing here is that you've been smothering her! Don't worry, it took me awhile to figure this out too.
I had to use the internet to do research, and learned the hard way.
I would buy her flowers and send love letters over.
And she kept ignoring me.
So play her game - show her that you don't need her! Go continue playing your golf, and find new hobbies, like racing car perhaps! And meet more women...
whatever you do, meet new women.
When she catches wind that you're out and about, not sulking, it'll create feelings deep within her.
And if you play your cards right when she calls you, you'll be right back where you wanted to be -- in her arms!