Understanding yourself as pain's hidden cause is a key insight when learning how to fix a broken heart after a break up.
Since I realize this may be a hard pill to swallow, I want to first acknowledge that it is indeed true, there are some very real things that have gone down in your relationships:

• Your partner cheated on you,
• Or maybe your ex boyfriend just left you from somebody else
• Or you've been served divorce papers.
  

Whatever the case may be the very real painful fact is that things have happened - that aren't of your own asking - and that's why you're heartbroken.
So how is it possible you could be the pain's hidden cause? More importantly, how does this help you to learn how to fix a broken heart? To answer these questions, I hope to share some insights I've gained.
You see, I believe the solution to most of life's problems is simply choosing to see things differently.
Its those unseen decisions you make by default about how you choose to handle this experience that causes you to act as pain's hidden cause.
Like Dorothy and the red slippers, you carry within you everything you need to fix a broken heart- let me explain.

"Loving what is right is different from hating what is wrong and feeling right about it! If you hate what is wrong you just break your heart in the process and end up with a world of hurt.
If you love what is right.
You stand for the love you deserve and remain whole in the process.
" - My Mother

The above quote sums up in a nutshell, a vital insight to start the healing process.
let me break it down for you:

• If you hate what is wrong you just break your heart in the process and end up with a world of hurt.
  Complaining to yourself about how much your ex hurt you only perpetuates your pain.
  Wishing to make them accountable and/or pay only causes you to use your heartbreak as justification for why they're at fault.
  Ask yourself this: are you too busy seeing how your ex hurt you to understand how you hurt yourself?
• If you love what is right.
  You stand for the love you deserve and remain whole in the process It's only when you stop playing the blame game and see your part in things that a world of insight comes your way.
  You act as pain's hidden cause with an array of unhealthy beliefs about yourself and what's possible.
  These beliefs act as self-fulfilling prophecies with your willingness to acknowledge them.
  You make an array of self-destructive choices based on these beliefs and prolong your hurt.
  

You see, your hurt acts as a vital wake-up call to some life lessons you need to learn.
Learning the lessons that come with this experience enables you to discover yourself as pain's hidden cause and learn how heal.
Its simply what you don't understand that causes your pain to linger.
Learning to see beyond the hurt that overwhelms you and recognizing your role in things enables you to fix your broken heart.
Here's just a things you'll quickly learn as you heal: INSIGHT #1 WHEN FIXING A BROKEN HEART- Any love in your life is an exact measure of the love you give yourself.
How much value do you assign to yourself in the relationship? How does the love in your relationship act as a reflection of what you're able to give yourself? Are you using your ex's love as a replacement for what you're unable to give yourself? INSIGHT #2 WHEN FIXING A BROKEN HEART - You Teach People How To Treat You.
Yes, its true your ex did hurt you and maybe things happened that weren't of your doing.
Still despite how much your partner hurt you its important you understand your role in things.
What are you putting up with? How are you teaching your partner to treat you? Are you selling yourself short? INSIGHT #3 WHEN FIXING A BROKEN HEART -Love Comes From Within.
There's a huge difference between a needy love - in which you use your partner to fill missing pieces - and the real thing.
You see needy love amounts to taking, as you expect them to fulfill the certain emotional needs.
This is drastically different from the real thing which is felt as a selfless giving - by your partner.
The next biggest lesson to while learning how to fix a broken heart came when you recognize love as coming from within.