Making Up 101 - How to Get Back With My Ex - Not For the Faint of Heart
So you just went through a break up with your significant other.
Do you plan on playing the victim, the helpless victim, and will wait for them to fix things and get back with you? If you decide to wait for them, you better be prepared for the worse case scenario - they move on, leaving you alone.
If you believe in your heart that you two are meant to be together, then don't wait for them to act, take action and learn how to get back with your ex.
Speaking of "helpless victim" - that is the last thing you want to portray as you work to get back with your ex.
Do you really think they will take you serious if you are a blubbering, disoriented cry-baby? If your ex can see you have both feet firmly planted, you are level-headed, and strike a pose of confidence, you will have a significantly better chance to rebuild your relationship.
Be strong, confident and know what you want.
Do not give in to the tears.
Now that you stronger and confident, you can seriously examine what the heck just happened.
With no emotions in the way, you can see the break up for what it was.
You must accept your part in the break up, rarely are arguments one-sided and usually the causes of arguments are due to the fault of both parties.
You do not have the right to point fingers and place blame until you can swallow your pride and accept your responsibility.
Wow - you ex will be impressed that you have taken ownership of your part in the break up and this will go a long way to get back with your ex.
Now for the test.
You have developed a strong and confident outlook, and you now see the break up for what it was and accept your part.
This is the tough part.
You need some time away from your ex.
What you ask? You probably are thinking that you have done so much so far to get things back on track with your ex.
Not so fast.
This is the time to spend some time apart from your ex - and I am not talking a day or two.
Try a week or two.
You (and your ex) need some time to themselves to come to a realization that you CAN make a go of it without them.
You need the confidence that you can be independent of them.
Spend time with friends, go out and enjoy life, take a trip somewhere - whatever you choose, just NOT with your ex.
It's going to be tough, but if you can prove yourself, in the end it will be a huge benefit.
Seems like a lot to ask of you, doesn't it? Well answer this: Is it worth it to you to get back with your ex? If you think it is too much work, then stop reading now, and forget about rebuilding your relationship with your ex, because if you cannot put in the effort now, what chances are there you will put in the effort later with your ex?
Do you plan on playing the victim, the helpless victim, and will wait for them to fix things and get back with you? If you decide to wait for them, you better be prepared for the worse case scenario - they move on, leaving you alone.
If you believe in your heart that you two are meant to be together, then don't wait for them to act, take action and learn how to get back with your ex.
Speaking of "helpless victim" - that is the last thing you want to portray as you work to get back with your ex.
Do you really think they will take you serious if you are a blubbering, disoriented cry-baby? If your ex can see you have both feet firmly planted, you are level-headed, and strike a pose of confidence, you will have a significantly better chance to rebuild your relationship.
Be strong, confident and know what you want.
Do not give in to the tears.
Now that you stronger and confident, you can seriously examine what the heck just happened.
With no emotions in the way, you can see the break up for what it was.
You must accept your part in the break up, rarely are arguments one-sided and usually the causes of arguments are due to the fault of both parties.
You do not have the right to point fingers and place blame until you can swallow your pride and accept your responsibility.
Wow - you ex will be impressed that you have taken ownership of your part in the break up and this will go a long way to get back with your ex.
Now for the test.
You have developed a strong and confident outlook, and you now see the break up for what it was and accept your part.
This is the tough part.
You need some time away from your ex.
What you ask? You probably are thinking that you have done so much so far to get things back on track with your ex.
Not so fast.
This is the time to spend some time apart from your ex - and I am not talking a day or two.
Try a week or two.
You (and your ex) need some time to themselves to come to a realization that you CAN make a go of it without them.
You need the confidence that you can be independent of them.
Spend time with friends, go out and enjoy life, take a trip somewhere - whatever you choose, just NOT with your ex.
It's going to be tough, but if you can prove yourself, in the end it will be a huge benefit.
Seems like a lot to ask of you, doesn't it? Well answer this: Is it worth it to you to get back with your ex? If you think it is too much work, then stop reading now, and forget about rebuilding your relationship with your ex, because if you cannot put in the effort now, what chances are there you will put in the effort later with your ex?
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