When you're trying to save your relationship after a breakup it's important not to bombard your ex with messages while avoiding a negative attitude.
Give Them Some Space It may not feel like the right thing to do, because you have a strong urge to reach out to your ex but you need to give them some space.
Most struggle with giving their ex some breathing room.
You might feel pressure to fix the problem as quickly as possible, but too much contact actually works against you.
What happens if you don't give your ex time alone is they develop a negative association with your communication.
It gets planted in their subconscious that when you call it'll be an unpleasant experience.
It develops a pattern that's hard to recover from.
Give them space and time away from the arguing.
You'll find your future communications get a much more positive response.
Avoid A Negative Attitude If you're hoping to get back together it's important to portray yourself in the most positive light as possible.
If you have a negative attitude your ex will expect a fight every time they see you.
This creates a scenario where your ex will stop returning your calls and in some instances go out of their way to avoid you.
Don't Make Drastic Changes A common impulse following a breakup is to start making drastic changes to please your ex in hopes of winning them back.
The problem with making too many changes too fast is it can make you look desperate.
There is also the possibility of changing a quality or personal trait your ex is fond of.