Most of us do not remember much about those early baby years, when life was simpler, reasons for confidence were plentiful, and negative temperaments were not so evident.
Qualities like shyness, right and wrong behavior, and lack of confidence were not problems.
The baby's sense of amazement and curiosity promotes healthy feelings such as confidence.
As the years of negative thoughts and experiences influence you, those healthy thoughts are covered by anxiety, shyness, and fear.
As a result, many adults are stuck with these negative traits caused by our external environment's effect on them.
While counseling with people, I attempt to coach them to see the brilliance that I see from my perspective.
My challenge is to help them to identify the misconceptions in our lives and uncover those brilliant qualities within.
When this process is accomplished I feel like a very lucky duck.
Though it may seem very easy to go through this process, it is tricky to understand.
Uncovering your internal brilliance may be simple, however, it isn't done easily.
If I were to look at the clients I counsel as broken and screwed up, I wouldn't be able to help them be anything different.
In fact, I would not be doing them a service or being fair to them.
A counselor doesn't really 'fix' broken people as much as they reveal the healthy person that is trapped within.
When I counsel, I look to see the potential whereas their poor thinking traps them in anxiety.
Together, the client and doctor work to create a healthy picture of being.
The result of this shift in thinking comes in feelings of success, contentment, and optimism.
Usually, the longer a client has had a poor view of himself and his internal self, the harder it can be to change it.
That is why it is so imperative for people with a faulty perception to get help as soon as possible.
The rate at which recovery takes place is often based on the person's willingness to be authentic, honest, and willing to dig deep into the past.
When an individual can accept and appreciate their own significant self, they don't have to feel anxious about limitations in their life, fears in their future, or inability in their performance.
Successful people have a self confidence in their life that is calm, sure, and naturally content.
Take the next couple of days and spend time with this concept.
Get rid of the stinking thinking, and win the war between Social anxiety vs.
Self-confidence.