When you lose something you love, you become absolutely crazy.
You freak out, and want to get your ex back now! But the thing is, you don't get our ex back, and the longer you have to wait, the more desperate you grow.
As you are on this emotional roller coaster, it may be hard to stop and look at where you are going wrong, but I will show you exactly what you must avoid if you want to pull your ex back...
Emotional bondage - Literally, you try to get your ex back simply by saying "I love you".
You totally kill the phrase, by telling it over and over desperately.
You use this as a reason for your ex to take you back, and then you make your ex feel trapped.
Telling how you feel over and over will only show your ex exactly how desperate you are.
Your ex will only think that you are saying it now that you don't have him/her, and this will make your ex to think you were taking them for granted before.
As your ex watches you go emotionally crazy over your them, you only further prove your ex right that you never wanted them before as much as you do now.
When you are trying to force your ex to love you, he/she will only resist, because you are not allowing it to be natural.
Pity party - You are having a pity party, and feeling sorry for yourself; and then suddenly you are blaming your ex.
You tell your ex exactly how much your life sucks since the break up, and even may have threatened to harm yourself.
Your ex may feel sorry for you for a bit, but in the end your ex will just think you are pathetic.
The only solution, is to simply act like you don't care about your ex; so that he/she works for your affection, rather than takes it for granted.