If you want to get your ex boyfriend back...
You have probably been pulling your hair out trying to figure out how.
You have also, in your frustration and desperation, probably been doing some things like professing your love, begging for another chance, or promising to change.
You may have even succeeded at breaking up a new relationship he's having.
Take a look at yourself.
If any of this sounds familiar, I urge you to take a step back and take stock of the image you are putting out there for him.
Put yourself in his place.
How he sees you is absolutely KEY to your success or failure in your quest to rekindle your relationship.
Examine your behaviors carefully.
If you are doing or have done anything similar to the behaviors, STOP them immediately.
The last thing your ex boyfriend wants is a creepy stalker for a girlfriend, and if you're following him around, monopolizing his time, trying to talk to him every chance you get, begging him, or calling him incessantly, I guarantee you that is how he see you -- a stalker.
When you want to get your ex boyfriend back, the things you're doing to try to get him back may actually be the very things that are pushing him away.
Here is what you should be doing.
Any time you see him in public, acknowledge him politely (not coldly -- try to be genuine), but instead of demanding attention from him, practice a little restraint.
Say hi, ask him how he's been, then move on with your evening as if he isn't there.
You will be pleasantly surprised at how much impact this kind of politely dismissive behavior will get to him.
Surprise him! When you want to get your ex boyfriend back, but have been failing, you really need to change up what you're doing It's obviously not working.
Do not call him unless it is necessary.
By all means, don't call to discuss your relationship.
That is a BIG no-no.
You can call him after about a week.
Tell him you were thinking about him and just wanted to see how he was doing.
Nothing more.
Or if you prefer, you can send him a "Thinking of You" card with a SHORT, polite message saying you hope all is well with him.
Make it short and sweet.
If you choose to make the phone call, end it early and pleasantly.
When you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you want your phone call (or card) to get him thinking.
He'll wonder why you seem different, more aloof.
Then just wait...
What you are effectively doing with this technique is giving HIM a chance to make a move.
This is CRUCIAL.
When you have an ex boyfriend to get back, you must avoid crowding him while giving him the chance (and the space) to come after you.