I can just hear you saying, huh?! What does sleep have to do with relationships, and my aim to win spouse back? Well, plenty, as it turns out.
Relationships and sleep (yours and your ex's) are, well, intimately connected, so to speak.
The amount of sleep an adult needs each night can vary, of course.
Generally, we need about eight hours a night.
But it has to be good, sound, quality sleep.
Naturally, in our busy, hectic lives, this can be difficult to achieve, especially if there are children in the picture.
A recent study seems to show that as goes your sleeping, so goes your relationship, and vice versa.
This means that if your marriage or relationship is going downhill, so will the quality of your sleep.
And if your sleep is deteriorating, so will your relationship! The study found that men who got a good night's sleep, saw their relationships in a more positive way the next day.
Women who were critical of some areas of their relationships, slept more poorly than usual that night.
Not surprisingly, the two people in a relationship strongly influence each other's moods, feelings and sense of well-being.
So it is all too easy to fall into bad habits, then sleep badly at night.
The next day, because you slept poorly, the problem becomes magnified.
Then things just go south from there.
Sound familiar? Yes, we have all been there, unfortunately.
How to break this vicious cycle? Why should you try to break it? Do it not just as a first step to get your ex back.
Make it the first step to changing and improving your whole life.
If your relationship fell apart and you are trying to win spouse back, start by making sure you sleep well, each and every night.
You will be more even-tempered and pleasant with everyone.
Meet with your ex to discuss your difficulties.
You will probably find you are more patient, cordial and just plain happier with him/her than you were before.
Relationships do not prosper when one or both partners are at war, constantly sniping and tearing at each other.
More and better sleep on a consistent basis may help you turn over a new leaf in your life and in your relationships.
Another bonus of good sleep is a good sex life.
You probably do not feel like having sex if you are worn out and tired at the end of the day.
No one does.
Good, regular sleep may well fix that situation.
Beyond that, better sleep will lead you to feel better about yourself, which also leads to better sex, which in turn leads to a closer, more satisfying relationship with your significant other.
4 Dos and Don'ts for a Good Night's Sleep 1.
Do not go to bed mad at each other.
As we have seen, this can lead to poor sleep for both of you.
Talk it out, and resolve the problem before turning out the lights.
2.
If you are just too busy to go to bed at a decent hour, change your routine and work habits.
It may require some effort, but you can do it.
Avoid anything that has caffeine in it, in the four hours before bedtime.
3.
Is your mattress old, lumpy and uncomfortable? Consider getting a new one, possibly one size bigger, so each of you can have more space.
4.
If none of this helps, it may be time to see a doctor.
Talk over your sleeping problems, and see if there is an underlying medical problem.
If not, the doctor may prescribe you something that will help you sleep.
And that will help you win spouse back, and renew your relationship.
Once you have done that (lucky you!) be careful not to slip back into those old bad habits.
Make an ironclad rule that you must be between the sheets at a certain hour.
Your mental and physical health, and your relationship, will benefit!