Getting back together with your ex is easy if you know how to do it.
Even if the situation seems desperate right now and beyond repair, it is always worth giving it a go.
Let's assume that you have decided that you actually do want to make up.
Let's assume you have looked at how the relationship had once been great, and you think you want it to be like that again.
Well, that's good, it's a positive step and a good platform from which to start the process of getting back together with your ex.
Now, where to go from here? Here is what you definitely do not do and what you should do instead.
Basically most disaster stories of people who couldn't get their ex back, involve them doing one or more of the following no-nos.
And most people have no clue how to go about it properly and how to give themselves the highest chance of success.
1.
Don't call your ex.
Don't contact them at all for a month.
This goes for phone calls, text messages, emails, "chance" meetings, whatever.
This will only push your ex further away.
This is the most important step as it cleans you out emotionally and gives you a kind of blank canvas to work from.
What you should do in this free time is work on yourself.
Get yourself in shape physically and mentally and you will find it easy to attract your ex back to you in the future.
2.
Don't become a recluse.
A dangerous mood to let yourself fall into is the dark and depressed one where you try to shut out the World from your life.
What you should do is force yourself to be sociable.
Get in touch with friends, go out with family, join a gym, start a course, anything to force yourself to go forward in life.
What we are looking for here, as far as your relationship is concerned, is a new start.
You won't get a new start if you let yourself get dragged down by the past or put our head in the sand.
3.
Don't rely on fate.
It is unlikely that you will be getting back together with your ex if you rely on chance to achieve it.
That is the stuff of books and movies and not the real World.
Things in the real World are won by people who work hard for what they want.
What you should be doing is working out what went wrong and what you need to change about yourself.
And you should be planning what you are going to say when you contact your ex (or they contact you.
Be ready for this as it happens a lot, but you still have to handle it as part of your overall strategy.
) 4.
Don't give up to easily.
Everything worth having in life is worth working for and most happy, successful relationships take time and effort to sculpt and craft.
You don't want a partnership that is just thrown together and falls apart at the next sign of trouble.
You should be ready to stay the course if getting back together with your ex is what you really want.
Make sure it's something worth looking after.