Lisa and David are now divorced.
All of the legal battles and the courtroom dramas are in the past.
Now Lisa is all alone and she is beginning to wonder if she has made a mistake.
Lisa is suddenly asking herself: How do I get back with ex husband David? And if I do, will things be better? That is an important question.
If things were so bad they ended in divorce, why would would any wife want an ex husband back? If you are recently divorced, you may be asking yourself these same questions.
Why not take the time to do a personal inventory? Is it possible that your marriage ended too soon? Was there enough effort made to work through the problems and find the solutions? Or did you both just give up? Lisa talked with her good friend Cheryl, who has been divorced for just over a year.
Cheryl said she thought Lisa was going through what most divorced women experience - the fear and uncertainty of facing life as a single person.
Women newly divorced may begin to feel that a bad marriage is better than no marriage because the loneliness can become almost unbearable.
Perhaps you are feeling this way yourself.
Are you suddenly feeling depressed and lonely? Do you feel that you will never be happy again? Does the prospect of being alone haunt you constantly? If you believe that a bad marriage is better than no marriage at all, then you really need to talk with someone before you take a step you will regret.
However, if your personal inventory has revealed to you that you never really gave your marriage a fair chance, then you may also be wondering how do I get back with your ex.
Here are just a few suggestions to start with: *** Make an honest evaluation.
Seriously look at your shortcomings in the marriage.
It is impossible for a relationship to end without both parties contributing to it.
If, after you identify areas you need to change, ask yourself if you are willing to do so.
*** Find some good resources on communication.
A break down of communication is the common thread in marriages which fail.
Go to your library or bookstore and find some books on communication.
Learn how to understand one another and find a common ground for communication.
If you can afford it, see a therapist.
*** Try talking with your ex husband, perhaps over a meal.
Remember, part of talking with someone includes listening.
Speak kindly and agree that there will be no blaming for anything that has happened in the past.
If you can't agree on this, it will only turn into an argument or screaming match.
If you find you can openly communicate with one another without pointing finger pointing, you may find that you are able to begin to understand one another and identify the misgivings or misunderstandings each of you developed.
This is a first great step toward reconciliation.
Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult things in life.
Feeling afraid and lonely after a divorce is normal.
If you feel, after an honest evaluation, that you made a mistake and your divorce was premature, then you must act quickly.
There are certain steps you must take if you want to get back with your ex husband and be happy again.
Most of us can think of couples that have gotten back together, sometimes under horrible circumstances.
Does it make you wonder if there could be some hidden recipe to reigniting passion and recapturing lost love? Somehow, mostly by accident, they did and said the RIGHT THINGS at the RIGHT TIME -- and won back the heart of their lover -- or at least created the circumstances where their ex gave them a second chance.
What if what they did by "accident" can be repeated over and over again on PURPOSE!