The person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with has ended the relationship.
You know there is no hope of reconciliation; you know you must move on.
Just how does one go about releasing the person you love and move on with your own life? Get ready because this is going to take some time.
Sometimes recovery is a very slow process.
But do not despair, peace and acceptance will come.
That does not mean that you will never think of your lost love again, or if you do the pain will not surface.
There will be many ways in which you will be reminded of that love through the coming weeks and months, and yes, even years.
As time passes, and healing takes place, the pain will not be as acute as it is today.
You can count on that.
Just because you will remember your lost love from time to time in the months and years ahead does not mean that your life will never be good again.
You will be able to enter new relationships, and even find love again.
With the death of any relationship in which you are heavily invested you must realize there is going to be pain.
You really must deal with the pain of your loss.
If you try to avoid the pain, you will not win.
There are many way to face the pain.
Some people take a vacation and sort of drop out of sight for a few weeks.
Other people find comfort in writing about their feelings.
You will find your own way, because what works for one may not work for another.
After a few months, if you think you are not making progress toward moving of, your life still seems to be going nowhere.
If all you think about if the lost love, you may be a candidate for professional help.
By this time, you probably have talked with your friends and maybe even your parents or another adult whose opinion you trust.
If nothing they said to you pointed you in the direction of healing, a few sessions with a professional is certainly something you could consider.
Do understand that sometimes those we like and trust may not have our best interest at heart.
Or, if they are glad that relationship ended, they may want to push you into a new relationship before you are ready.
Keep your head on straight and weigh any advice you are given against your common sense.
A wonderful advantage of seeking professional help at times like this is objectivity.
The counselors will be looking for the solution that will help you move on with your life.
And, you can make as many visits as you feel you need.
Do not be hesitant to seek professional guidance.
It may be the best choice for you.