Going through a breakup isn't easy, and it is perfectly normal for you to want to get your girl back afterward.
It can even become an all-consuming obsession for you, if you're not careful.
Before you invest too much time and energy into plotting ways to get her back, take a long, objective look at your former relationship and decide if it's even worth getting back.
Most break-ups happen for a good reason, and if you really think about it, you'll probably see that yours was really a good thing.
However, some breakups happen due to petty reasons, such as minor arguments and misunderstandings.
In these cases, the relationship may very well deserve a second chance, especially if the two of you were very much in love.
It's a shame to throw away a great love on a misunderstanding! If this is the case for you, you can take heart in knowing that there is plenty you can do to get your girl back.
If you're on a quest to reclaim your love, here are the top things you should consider along the way.
Keep contact with her to a minimum during the first month or two following the breakup.
Don't call, email, or text her more than once a week to start.
When you DO contact her, make your contacts meaningful, without being pushy.
This means don't talk about your former relationship, your breakup, or the reasons why you broke up.
Don't beg her to take you back or try to convince her to see you.
Simply be friendly, much as you would be with a casual male acquaintance.
Ask how she's doing, let her know what you've been doing, and act as if there are no hard feelings.
If she has a birthday or other important date on the calendar coming up, make sure you contact her on it, so she knows you remember it, but don't send any presents.
When you tell her about what you've been doing, don't brag about all the girls you've been dating, or any major accomplishments in your life.
If you got a promotion at work, you can mention it, but don't act like you want her to think it was a mistake to break up with you because of your current success.
Don't talk about any controversial subjects either, including politics, religion, or current events.
If there are topics you know the two of you always disagreed on, don't talk about those, either, even if it's about a TV show.
Any arguments now, no matter how mild, will only push her away from you again.
Finally, don't do anything out of character.
She's going to be paying close attention to you during your contacts to see if you're acting strangely, and she'll use any differences in your normal personality to accuse you of trying to get back with her.
If she's not ready for this line of thought, she's going to back away, possibly for good.
So, how do you know when your ex is ready to think about getting back together? If you want to get your girl back, you're going to have to bring it up eventually.
However, the timing is critical.
Do it too soon, and she'll run away.
Do it too late, and she'll be angry at you all over again.
I want to share with you a proven system that reveals when to make contact, what to say and what to do next in order to win your girlfriend back.