Wondering how to repair your relationship? Perhaps your spouse or partner has been kind of ignoring you when it comes to the intimacy side of things.
Some people think the answer to that is to try to rev up things in the bedroom.
Not necessarily, so here is some advice on sex that can help you avoid making a mistake.
Everyone wants a healthy relationship with plenty of spice in the bedroom.
But do not think that is a good barometer of how the relationship is working.
Just because your partner is satisfied with you physically does not mean that they will stay with you forever; that advice does not even hold true for you girls.
There are many factors in what makes a strong relationship, so if you need to repair your relationship do not focus on just one aspect that might not even be the problem.
You will always have ups and downs with your partner as you go through life, but it is the satisfying of all levels of needs that will keep you together when the going gets tough.
You need to learn to balance the emphasis you place on the varying aspects of your connection with your significant other.
There are times when sex is not the answer to what they are looking for.
Even guys sometimes just want to have someone to talk to, relax and be comfortable hanging out with.
So before you take that trip to the lingerie store or look to Dr.
Ruth for some advice on sex let's take a look at some other points:

• How did your relationship get started? What kinds of things did you do, not necessarily on a date, but when just spending some time together? Are you still doing those kinds of things together? If not, perhaps you should think about reconnecting your love by trying one of those activities.
  
• Sometimes the best way to get an answer is to ask.
  Try arranging a relaxing evening with him or her and direct the discussion around to the topic of "us" and ask him or her how they think the relationship is doing and how it could be better.
  Make it clear that you are asking and not complaining and that you are interested in any ideas and willing to make adjustments or changes to help make it better.
  

If you do try to get your spouse or partner alone for a discussion about your marriage or relationship you want to do all you can to make him or her comfortable and insure that they will not feel any threatening in the atmosphere or have any inclination to think you are starting an argument.
(I am kind of thinking hot tub, myself; but do what works for you!) Do not forget that if they are willing to open up to you then you want to reciprocate and open up to them.
Remember, kind and gentle words; we want to repair your relationship not bring it to an explosive conclusion!