Most people end up in a number of relationships before we finally come up with that unique gal that we wish to spend the remainder of our lives with. Nevertheless, after we find that special lady we do not have any guarantee that we will be able to keep her, so some people tend to get stupid. For some reason we assume that she will continually be there, no matter what .

If you cheated on your wife or girl friend and she is thinking about leaving you, or is already gone, then you need to think about the following items before trying to win her back again.

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Now you need to ask your self the following questions:

1) Are you aware of what you have done? I'm not saying to be mentally conscious of the motions of what you did, but the deeper impact of your actions, the hurtful stuff. You were unfaithful, that's the easy explanation of what you have done. Should you dig deeper you will understand the impact it had on your significant other and possibly your kids; the pain, emotional baggage, etc. You should be aware of the damage you've done and admit to your mistake.

Being conscious of what you have done is a essential first step to the healing process the relationship needs to endure. Keep in mind, your girlfriend or wife may have some very sensitive emotions concerning this for quite some time. It's crucial to be sensitive to them and never attempt to place the blame on your ex.

2) Do you take responsibility of your cheating? Admitting your error and taking responsibility are two different things. Just admitting that you made a error isn't sufficient. For instance, several of those that go bankrupt truly realize their mistakes and play with a whole new list of rules right after the bankruptcy. Likewise, merely admitting to some thing and moving on like it didn't occur is not going to work. The book of rules will need to change.

3) Do you know what you desire? Lots of those who cheat don't have a clue of what that want or require in a mate, hence they cheat. Now, if true love is at risk, it will be obvious to even the most confused after a while apart. Be absolutely certain that you want your ex girlfriend back prior to you make another play for her. If you don't want her back again then you are wasting her time and yours.

Also remember, a single mistake doesn't have to be a irreversible end to a loving relationship and happy life. Certain, sometimes it is indeed an end, but not usually. Actually, many happy couples that stay together for decades have, at some point in their lives, a difficulty with infidelity on one side or maybe both. Love is why they stay together.

The crucial element is love. Do you love her? If that's the case, do what you are able to to get her back again .