Divorce "To-Do" List
As you begin approaching the end of the divorce process, there are many items of "business" to take care of.
Your attorney may even hand you a laundry list, so to speak, of items that need to be handled or addressed upon the execution of the divorce decree.
Things such as: - Notifying your auto insurer of any changes in automobile drivers, ownership, and addresses - Writing a new will - Changing the beneficiary on your life insurance policy, if permissible under the divorce decree - Changing your name on your bank accounts and checks, or open new accounts in your name only Just to name a few.
It can seem at times that much of the divorce process is the legal proceedings that are incurred.
But as you know, the psychological aspects of divorce can linger even longer.
So often we focus so intently on taking care of the legal side of the divorce, we shun the most important part, our mental well-being.
Why is that? Is it because: - of denial - we'd just rather not deal with it due to the pain - the legal and emotional aspects are just too much to handle at once, both emotionally and financially, so we put off getting the emotional help we need - we don't want to face the mistakes we may have made or - that we don't even know what to do or where to start For many the discounting of our emotional well being is because of that last question.
Many people have become so accustomed to doing things with their ex and living life for their ex, that they truly don't know how to function by themselves anymore.
Many people even lose their identities and have forgotten what their own hopes, dreams, goals, and ambitions were.
They have forgotten what they like to do and even how to it.
This is especially the case for a stay-at-home mom that leaves the workforce for a long period of time.
So how about a "laundry list" of "to-do's" for that person who isn't quite sure what is next? - begin with your health - make sure you're exercising & eating well - Find a support group - Get out and do things with friends and family - Try something you've never done before - Keep a journal - Find hobbies that you have a passion for - Meditate Now, these are just a few suggestions to get you going.
The idea is for you to create a to-do list of your own of things that you'd like to accomplish, try, and learn.
The goal of your to do list is to find things that please you and make you happy.
Happiness starts within ourselves.
If you are struggling to deal with the emotional side of divorce, put it on your "to-do" list to get some help.
It doesn't imply there's anything psychologically wrong with you, it just means you're hurting and could use some extra help.
So, start 2010 out right and make yourself a priority this year.
Put yourself on your "To-Do's".
Your attorney may even hand you a laundry list, so to speak, of items that need to be handled or addressed upon the execution of the divorce decree.
Things such as: - Notifying your auto insurer of any changes in automobile drivers, ownership, and addresses - Writing a new will - Changing the beneficiary on your life insurance policy, if permissible under the divorce decree - Changing your name on your bank accounts and checks, or open new accounts in your name only Just to name a few.
It can seem at times that much of the divorce process is the legal proceedings that are incurred.
But as you know, the psychological aspects of divorce can linger even longer.
So often we focus so intently on taking care of the legal side of the divorce, we shun the most important part, our mental well-being.
Why is that? Is it because: - of denial - we'd just rather not deal with it due to the pain - the legal and emotional aspects are just too much to handle at once, both emotionally and financially, so we put off getting the emotional help we need - we don't want to face the mistakes we may have made or - that we don't even know what to do or where to start For many the discounting of our emotional well being is because of that last question.
Many people have become so accustomed to doing things with their ex and living life for their ex, that they truly don't know how to function by themselves anymore.
Many people even lose their identities and have forgotten what their own hopes, dreams, goals, and ambitions were.
They have forgotten what they like to do and even how to it.
This is especially the case for a stay-at-home mom that leaves the workforce for a long period of time.
So how about a "laundry list" of "to-do's" for that person who isn't quite sure what is next? - begin with your health - make sure you're exercising & eating well - Find a support group - Get out and do things with friends and family - Try something you've never done before - Keep a journal - Find hobbies that you have a passion for - Meditate Now, these are just a few suggestions to get you going.
The idea is for you to create a to-do list of your own of things that you'd like to accomplish, try, and learn.
The goal of your to do list is to find things that please you and make you happy.
Happiness starts within ourselves.
If you are struggling to deal with the emotional side of divorce, put it on your "to-do" list to get some help.
It doesn't imply there's anything psychologically wrong with you, it just means you're hurting and could use some extra help.
So, start 2010 out right and make yourself a priority this year.
Put yourself on your "To-Do's".
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