Stop what you are doing and think back to when someone said some hurtful things to you or about you that cut deep like a sharp knife cutting through a honey baked ham during Christmas dinner.
I bet they are easy to remember.
Each vivid detail is played over and over again in your head like a movie playing at different times in the theater.
It dominates your life controlling every aspect of it.
You seek relief but none is found and it only gets worse.
The pain and hurt is to much to bear.
Then you ask yourself, "Where in the King James Bible (KJV) can I find some scripture that will help me?" One verse says, "Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
" I Thessalonians 4:18 (KJV) Another verse that gives good advice says, "Wherefore comfort yourselfs together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.
" I Thessalonians 5:11 (KJV) Maybe right now your are asking yourself, "What are these verses trying to reveal?" Another question you may be asking is, "How will these verses help?" I.
When the hurtful words are said.
When it first happens you are in the state of shock.
You are so surprised that you cannot believe what was said.
This response came out of from nowhere with no reasons to support that type of hurtful words.
Going through your mind now is all type of scenarios, questions and answers trying to figure out what happen and why it happened and what needs to be done about it.
Sometimes you will be mad and upset while at other times you will be okay with it.
This is going through the process of figuring things out.
II.
After some time has past after the hurtful words are said.
What do I do now after some time has went by and those hurtful words are still clear as glass going through my mind disturbing me every day? This is a real problem that many people suffer with every single day.
They cannot let it go.
It is so serious that it affects their lives and the lives of the people they love and care about.
The words were spoken, certain actions were taken, many expressions were seen, and many emotions were felt.
But the question still remains, "How to deal with after effects?" III.
Coping with the after effects after the hurtful words are words are said.
You know exactly what you said, how you said it, and what you meant before you said it.
But the other person may have not took it the way you meant it.
Their mind may have wonder off or they got distracted and heard only part of what you said and took it the wrong way.
So many things could have happen so you have to look through the other persons eyes to try and see what they saw.
Maybe you did not come over the way you wanted and it appeared to be disrespectful.
Remember to always watch what you say and how you say things because they can be taken out of context easy.
One important phrase that comes to mind is, "think before you speak.
" If you speak before you think then it can and will get you into a lot of trouble.
Some good advice for you to take to help you stay out of trouble is to always think before you speak.