"Your silence is half consent," shouted a wife distraught by the constant lies of her husband.
"But it can be half denial as well," commented her friend who was listening to her.
The wife was silenced at the logic in the comment.
"But then, how am I to know if my husband is telling lies, more so, when chooses not to speak and becomes stone silent?", lamented the hapless wife.
Do you find yourself in a similar situation? Don't be distraught.
You can still find the truth.
The truth is that a person does not tell lies with his mouth alone and, therefore, cannot hide the truth through silence.
Most parts of his body also speak and some parts speak louder than the words uttered through the mouth.
This is called body language and the beauty of this language is that it speaks even if you do not want it to.
Here are some tips on body language to tell if your husband is lying: 1.
Voice Check the tone of his voice.
It may have some uncertainty, a tremor, a shakiness in it.
It may be a bit subdued, demure.
2.
Eyes A person telling lies avoids direct eye contact with his interlocutor.
He generally looks down or just nowhere.
Or, he may start blinking and look side ways.
3.
Face You may discern stress on the face especially in his twitching of lips.
Even the body of the person becomes tense especially when he is not a hardened liar and is telling lies for the first time.
He may bite his lips or nails.
4.
Body movement The person becomes fidgety and tends to move from side to side on his feet, which he also keeps shuffling.
He feels itchy, tries to rub the nose, face and ears.
5.
Sweating If you are terribly afraid, you start sweating even during cold and wipe the drops of sweat from the forehead or face.
If you observe keenly, there may be several other perceptible changes in the body indicating that the person is telling lies.
How to stop your husband from telling lies? Here is an actual example: A husband told his wife he was working in his office, but the truth was that he was watching a movie in a theatre.
This was in spite of the fact that he had promised to see the movie with her.
His lie was caught by his wife when his colleague told her that they had seen the movie together.
There are two ways the wife could react to the lies of her husband.
One is the usual way.
She could have exploded into fireworks and told him straight away he was a damned liar.
This would possibly have provoked the husband to refute the allegation with more lies and even accusations which could aggravate the situation.
Not even a blind man wishes to be called blind.
The man would make up his mind to be more careful in hiding his future escapades by inventing more ingenious lies.
Her actual purpose to stop him from telling lies would be defeated.
Here is what the wife did: She did not start blasting her husband right away.
She told him that she had just heard from some that he had seen the movie.
She listened to his explanation patiently.
She said ok, there might have been some misunderstanding somewhere.
Of course, he never meant what he said or he never meant to go the movie alone without her.
Maybe his colleague compelled him to go to the movie with him.
Once she had made her point that she knew he had told the lie, she changed the subject as if nothing had happened.
She even offered him coffee after she had finished.
She conveyed him the message that although she knew he had told the lie, she had forgiven him because she loved him.
According to her, her husband takes her along whenever he goes to movies.
Quite possibly he will tell the lie again.
Old habits do not die easily.
But he will think twice before doing that.
A peaceful and persuasive approach is more likely to yield positive results than impatient accusations and rebuttals.
Only you have to keep your ego within control.
Don't say: how dare you tell lies to me, etc.
unless you want to break up with him.
There are more ways to stop your husband from cheating you even if he is a hardened liar and manipulator.
Often the marriages break up because of mendacious nature of the spouses.
Your approach should depend upon the unique situation that causes the trouble.