Have you seen the movie about how men get turned off by girls, "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days"? Can you relate to ways in which Kate Hudson's character says women push men away? How many of those things are you guilty of doing? Don't fear.
You don't have to spend one more day rehashing the mistakes you made in your latest relationship.
Once you learn the things that turn men off, you can avoid doing them and attract Mr.
Right.
Don't: Jabber on about your ex.
No man wants to sit silently as you provide a laundry list of the things your last boyfriend did wrong.
Remember that first dates are essentially an audition process.
What does it say about you if all you can talk about is another man? Even if what you are saying casts your ex in a negative light, it doesn't make you look good to talk about another man when you are on a date with someone new.
Do: Focus on him.
Especially on your first few dates, focus your attention - and discussion - on getting to know the person you are with.
You wouldn't want him to spend his time discussing how his ex-girlfriend spent too much money and drank too much, so don't put him through endless tales about what a dog your ex was.
Don't: Move too fast.
Guys don't like to feel pressured to settle down before they are ready, and if you back him into a corner, his fight or flight instinct will kick in and, well, he won't fight.
Unless you are very serious about him and know that he feels the same as you, don't start talking wedding plans and baby names.
It will only drive him away.
Do: Enjoy the dating process.
You have the rest of your life to be settled down with the 2.
5 kids and a double-car garage.
Dating is fun! Embrace the fun and freedom of falling in infatuation and then possibly in love before you start signing up for a bridal registry.
Have your own life, too.
If he sees that you are living your life and having fun, he won't worry about feeling pressured, and he'll come along for the ride.
If you do both decide to get serious later, you'll know it's because you can't live without each other, not because your biological clock was ticking.
Don't: Invite your financial advisor on your date.
In other words, don't ask a man how much he makes, and don't discuss your own financial situation either.
You can be proud of your accomplishments (and there's nothing wrong with wanting to know if a man is financially secure either) but these topics do not have a place on the first few dates.
Do: Understand that guys don't want to feel like they are being used for their money.
At the first sign that you are scoping out his financial situation he'll head for the hills.
A man wants to know you are interested in him for him, not for his money.
Men get turned off when you talk money, so keep financial discussions for much later in your relationship.