I Think My Ex And I Should Get Back Together!
Were you and your ex together for a while and you really feel your break-up was not meant to be? Maybe there were real issues that were problematic and the break-up was inevitable.
Are you contemplating daily if you (or your ex) made the wrong decision? If your ex was someone who worked away from home all the time, this is a big reason for many break-ups.
It's really hard to enjoy being with someone and enjoying the comforts of a relationship when they aren't even there most of the time.
If this was the case for you, don't be hard on yourself.
It happens.
If your ex has gotten another job, or has also had time to think and has decided it wouldn't be so bad to look for another job enabling them to be home more often, the split may have been just the thing to move things in the right direction.
Are you both young? Yes, that does make a difference.
If you are young, it's a time for both of you to try different things.
If your ex broke it off with you to experience life (or "have some space"), it may well have been needed.
Don't expect yourself or anyone else to be perfect.
Things really do happen for a reason and you may end up meeting new friends doing activities you like to do and may meet someone else.
If you are young, take this time to enjoy your freedom.
Find out who YOU are.
Don't rely on another for your happiness.
Was this your first serious relationship? If so, no one completely gets over their first "love".
For some reason it seems to be common everywhere.
You will tend to compare any relationship you do have with the feelings you had for your first love.
The best way to deal with this is to stop comparing.
When you meet a new person and you feel yourself starting to compare, just stop.
Don't even let yourself do it.
Then you will be able to clearly see that this new person is NOT your ex and you can make your own memories together.
If you are convinced you should meet with your ex or at the least, speak with them, go for it! There's nothing to lose.
You may find that he or she has changed completely or that they haven't changed at all and you are happy for the break-up.
Either way, if the relationship is meant to be, it will happen on its own.
Just remember to not be so hard on yourself or them.
Things tend to work out for the best concerning those involved.
Are you contemplating daily if you (or your ex) made the wrong decision? If your ex was someone who worked away from home all the time, this is a big reason for many break-ups.
It's really hard to enjoy being with someone and enjoying the comforts of a relationship when they aren't even there most of the time.
If this was the case for you, don't be hard on yourself.
It happens.
If your ex has gotten another job, or has also had time to think and has decided it wouldn't be so bad to look for another job enabling them to be home more often, the split may have been just the thing to move things in the right direction.
Are you both young? Yes, that does make a difference.
If you are young, it's a time for both of you to try different things.
If your ex broke it off with you to experience life (or "have some space"), it may well have been needed.
Don't expect yourself or anyone else to be perfect.
Things really do happen for a reason and you may end up meeting new friends doing activities you like to do and may meet someone else.
If you are young, take this time to enjoy your freedom.
Find out who YOU are.
Don't rely on another for your happiness.
Was this your first serious relationship? If so, no one completely gets over their first "love".
For some reason it seems to be common everywhere.
You will tend to compare any relationship you do have with the feelings you had for your first love.
The best way to deal with this is to stop comparing.
When you meet a new person and you feel yourself starting to compare, just stop.
Don't even let yourself do it.
Then you will be able to clearly see that this new person is NOT your ex and you can make your own memories together.
If you are convinced you should meet with your ex or at the least, speak with them, go for it! There's nothing to lose.
You may find that he or she has changed completely or that they haven't changed at all and you are happy for the break-up.
Either way, if the relationship is meant to be, it will happen on its own.
Just remember to not be so hard on yourself or them.
Things tend to work out for the best concerning those involved.
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