Three Unexpected Ways You May Be Keeping Love Away!
Three Unexpected Ways You May Be Keeping Love Away! "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
" ~ Jalal ad-Din Rumi Have you ever considered you might be playing a role in slowing down the process of meeting your Mr.
Right? Please see if any of these three unexpected "love blockers" are in effect in your own life: 1) You are getting in your own way.
In my conversations with single women, I ask them the following question: "What do you think might be slowing you down, holding you back, or stopping you from having the relationship of your dreams?" It is fascinating how often the answer is "I am" or some version of this.
There were times during my single life when I subconsciously sabotaged my chances for love with my self-limiting thoughts or sub-optimal actions.
This can show up in many ways: fear, doubt, apathy or ambivalence.
Are you settling for less than you deserve, or playing a victim? It is worth asking yourself the question: Are you getting in your own way? 2) You are not fully owning your own power.
It is so easy to feel hurt, disappointed and disillusioned when your life has not gone as expected or relationships have not worked out the way you hoped.
One of my favorite quotes is by John Lennon of Beatles fame who said: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.
" It is easy to forget that you are ultimately responsible for your well-being and happiness.
There have been times in my life when I wanted to have someone else come rescue or save me, but I have come to realize that I am responsible for myself and my happiness.
It is empowering when you do realize you have the responsibility for your own joy and happiness.
Once you truly love and value yourself, you are more able to acknowledge, appreciate and receive the love and lessons others have to offer.
3) You are not being totally authentic.
It is interesting how often we as human beings try to impress others by trying to be who we think they want us to be.
One of the most intriguing things about human relationships is how often our vulnerabilities, passions and frailties help other people relate to us and to love us more fully.
If you are truly living your life joyfully, and authentically, you will be very attractive to those around you.
By letting go of the fear of the "real you" being "discovered" you will be much more attractive, open and receptive to receiving love.
After all, you really want someone to love you for being you! Just focus on being the very best version of yourself and you will become irresistibly attractive to the right person.
" ~ Jalal ad-Din Rumi Have you ever considered you might be playing a role in slowing down the process of meeting your Mr.
Right? Please see if any of these three unexpected "love blockers" are in effect in your own life: 1) You are getting in your own way.
In my conversations with single women, I ask them the following question: "What do you think might be slowing you down, holding you back, or stopping you from having the relationship of your dreams?" It is fascinating how often the answer is "I am" or some version of this.
There were times during my single life when I subconsciously sabotaged my chances for love with my self-limiting thoughts or sub-optimal actions.
This can show up in many ways: fear, doubt, apathy or ambivalence.
Are you settling for less than you deserve, or playing a victim? It is worth asking yourself the question: Are you getting in your own way? 2) You are not fully owning your own power.
It is so easy to feel hurt, disappointed and disillusioned when your life has not gone as expected or relationships have not worked out the way you hoped.
One of my favorite quotes is by John Lennon of Beatles fame who said: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.
" It is easy to forget that you are ultimately responsible for your well-being and happiness.
There have been times in my life when I wanted to have someone else come rescue or save me, but I have come to realize that I am responsible for myself and my happiness.
It is empowering when you do realize you have the responsibility for your own joy and happiness.
Once you truly love and value yourself, you are more able to acknowledge, appreciate and receive the love and lessons others have to offer.
3) You are not being totally authentic.
It is interesting how often we as human beings try to impress others by trying to be who we think they want us to be.
One of the most intriguing things about human relationships is how often our vulnerabilities, passions and frailties help other people relate to us and to love us more fully.
If you are truly living your life joyfully, and authentically, you will be very attractive to those around you.
By letting go of the fear of the "real you" being "discovered" you will be much more attractive, open and receptive to receiving love.
After all, you really want someone to love you for being you! Just focus on being the very best version of yourself and you will become irresistibly attractive to the right person.
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