Far too many women fail to realize exactly how important sexual intimacy is to their husbands.
They wonder how in the world they're supposed to feel turned on and sexy after a long day at work, taking care of kids, cleaning house and cooking supper.
So, when a woman becomes overwhelmed in life, sex usually takes a back burner.
Men on the other hand really, truly require sex.
It's is one of the single most important needs they have.
This doesn't mean that men are animals or somehow depraved.
They're just designed differently than women are.
And failure to understand this difference has wrecked more than one marriage.
While women might be able to go weeks or even months without making love, it's a totally different story when it comes to their mates.
Men need sex, and without it they can be left feeling frustrated, hurt or even unloved.
Women, however, need an emotional connection with their mate, or sex can seem cold or even impossible.
So, how do you make it work? First, you've got to be honest with yourself when it comes to sexual intimacy.
How many times have you shot your mate down in the last week? Month? Six months? If you're not having sex as often as your mate would like, what's keeping you from it? What things could you change to get yourself more in the mood? If your relationship has hit rocky ground, probably the last thing you want to do right now is get intimate or passionate.
It may seem unnatural to have sex when you're hurt or angry.
However, reestablishing passion and intimacy with your mate is the fastest, most reliable way to connect enough to solve the underlying problems you have.
While it may be awkward at the beginning, the feelings, joys, pleasures and satisfaction that a healthy sex life brings eases the discomfort over time.
Before you know it, your intimacy, communication and friendship can be restored, all with something as seemingly simple as sex.
If you're having trouble getting intimate with your spouse, you might just need a chance of scenery.
If the idea of sex conjures up images of unfulfilling "quickie" sex in your head, you might want to start thinking about what you wish sex was.
Instead of thinking about sex, think about "making love".
I bet the images that came to mind were quite a bit different.
Making love is a great way to satisfy both you and your husband's primary needs.
He needs physical intimacy.
You need emotional intimacy.
Making love offers both and leaves the two of you content and fulfilled.
If you and your mate have spent a lot of time arguing or simply ignoring each other, plan a wild night of passion.
If you've been putting intimacy on the back burner in your marriage, get ready to reheat it! A great deal of the time, a good, healthy sexual relationship with your spouse can help you overcome the problems that will surely come your way.
Even serious problems.
So, let's turn up the heat a bit.
Here are some great ways to spice up the time you two spend between the sheets...
oTake some time to help yourself get "in the mood".
Take a warm bubble bath, listen to some relaxing music and think a few seductive thoughts.
Within fifteen to thirty minutes, you should find yourself feeling less distracted, more beautiful and ready to turn up the heat! oWhile your husband is still at work, set up a little loving surprise.
Tidy up your bedroom, but on those sexy satin sheets, place candles throughout the room and pick out a romantic CD to listen to.
Leave a little note for him on the bed, hinting of all the pleasures you have in store for him this evening.
Then, eat dinner, get the kids off to bed and turn off the telephone and TV.
Head upstairs for a wild night of love and lust.
oDo you love a long, luxurious bubble bath? Well, the chances are that your spouse would love one too.
Turn the tables and greet him in the evening after a long hard day at work with a little rest and relaxation.
Draw him a bath and lavish him with love.
Scrub his back.
Wash his hair.
Kiss and caress him.
You never know, it could turn into a bubble bath for two.
oReserve a Friday or Saturday night at a local hotel.
Splurge for the nicest room you can afford.
Go for a Jacuzzi.
Order room service.
Call for a bottle of the best wine.
Leave the rest of the world outside of the door and take the time to recreate the intimacy you once shared.
No calling to check up on the kids.
No talking about bills.
If you've been going through some tough times, call the hotel room the demilitarized zone.
No nagging, fighting, yelling, complaining or withdrawing.
Make love, not war! oDo you wish you were a better lover? Don't just wish it, do something about it! Ask your mate what fantasies he has.
Or, if you're not quite comfortable enough to do that, start paying attention when you are making love.
Listen for noises, moans, and other signs that let you know what he likes and what he loves.
There are also tons of books available that cover different sexual positions, techniques, role-playing games, etc.
Check one of them out and see what comes of it.
oLearn what turns you on.
Some women aren't being fulfilled sexually in a relationship, but don't know what to do or what to say.
Take the time to learn what turns you on.
What fantasies play in your head? What positions drive you wild? Once you figure out the answers to these questions, find ways to share this knowledge with your mate.
While you might be afraid he'll think you're being too critical, most men wish that they're wives would try harder to tell them what they want.
Men aren't psychic.
But you can rest assured that your man is dying to know exactly how to really knock your socks off!