Unfortunately for some married couples, their relationship gets to such a bad place that they start to consider divorce as their only option. This is a real shame. I won't lie to you and say there is always a simple solution; sometimes too much damage has been done and it is the best option for both parties.

However, in other cases, it isn't too late to turn your relationship around and make a difference. But it won't necessarily be easy.

Here is the approach I recommend you take:

Talk to each other: You and your spouse will need to make and honest evaluation of your relationship and how you got to this position. Avoid blaming each other or being hurtful. Instead, focus on really taking on board what your partner has to say. You should feel as though you have made headway and have a clearer idea of what issues need to be resolved in order to start seeing improvements.

An ideal way to achieve this is through marriage counselling. Not only will you receive fantastic advice, but you will be in an environment where you discuss constructively as opposed to argue senselessly.

Make change accordingly: This tends to be the difficult part! Clearly, how you were living with each other to this point wasn't working. Therefore, it is essential that once you have discussed your marriage (either alone or with your counsellor) then you need to take action and make the necessary changes. If you avoid doing this, then you can't reasonably expect your relationship to get back on track, develop and flourish.

Fortunately though, once you start to see the benefits that taking this action has made, the whole process of rejuvenation will start to appear far easier than you had imagined and gain a momentum of its own.

Become a couple again: When a marriage faces divorce, there are often two scenarios for how a husband and wife live with each other; one is being under same roof but living separate lives and the other is a state of constant arguing and hostility. In both cases, it is essential that you return to a civil and eventually, loving environment. Be friends again, turn to each other for advice and support, be thoughtful and do things that will make your partner's life easier and more bearable.

Put the past behind you: If you have both made the decision to stay married together, then you will need to come to a conclusion on all incidents and episodes and put them behind you. Dragging them up again and again will not help you or your spouse. In fact, it will prevent you from moving forward in your relationship and strengthening your bond.

Spend more quality time with each other: By quality time, I mean when you aren't feeling stressed or have a dozen things that you need to worry about. When you're at a stage where you have managed to successfully put a halt to unnecessary arguments and have resolved pertinent issues, treat yourselves; consider going out of town for the weekend. Somewhere where it is just the two of you and you can simply enjoy each other's company again.