Divorce - Before It"s Too Late
Here in America, we are a throw away society.
A perfect example of this is Cell Phones.
According to most consumers, their cell phone is out of date within six months to one year.
The phone can be in perfect working order but not have the latest gadgets or be of the latest style, so consumers spend more money to go purchase a new one.
Computers are another good example of our "throw away" mentality.
We keep our computers for a year or two and then complain that it's too slow, so we can justify getting a new one.
Can we throw away our relationships when we're tired of them just as easily as our cell phones or computers? In today's society it may appear so, however, it's not that easy.
Throwing away a cell phone isn't going to take you on the same emotional roller coaster that a lost relationship will.
Break ups are hard for both parties in most cases, because each party has invested their time, money, and emotions into this other person.
There's a lot more at stake than meets the eye.
Here are the "throw away" statistics: 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.
" (http://www.
divorcerate.
org/) It might surprise some that approximately 50% of those that were divorced stated five years later that they wished they would've stayed in that marriage to try and work it out.
(http://ce.
byu.
edu/cw/fuf/archives/2002/BrentABarlow2002.
pdf) The reason for this last statistic is because people come to find out that the same problems they had in their previous relationship, recur in their newest relationship.
The reason for that is people are most likely carrying the same baggage into the newer relationship that they had brought with them into the first relationship.
Without "changing their luggage" so to speak, things are most likely not going have a different or brighter outcome.
The Old Chinese proverb can be applied: "Insanity is doing the same thing in the same way and expecting a different outcome.
" It's kind of funny when you think about it because most of us do this often.
Are we truly insane? NO! But, hopefully we understand the principle well enough to recognize that continuing down the same path will not take us onto a new road.
You have to find a NEW path to get you to your NEW goal.
That will probably require getting rid of some of that heavy old baggage and trying to find new ways to carry your loads.
I am a Certified Life Coach who specializes in working with couples who are facing these "baggage" issues and many others.
I work with individuals and couples who need help in their relationships.
I can empower you to lighten your baggage, set new goals, and find new paths to reach those goals.
Let me coach you to a new Two! TM
A perfect example of this is Cell Phones.
According to most consumers, their cell phone is out of date within six months to one year.
The phone can be in perfect working order but not have the latest gadgets or be of the latest style, so consumers spend more money to go purchase a new one.
Computers are another good example of our "throw away" mentality.
We keep our computers for a year or two and then complain that it's too slow, so we can justify getting a new one.
Can we throw away our relationships when we're tired of them just as easily as our cell phones or computers? In today's society it may appear so, however, it's not that easy.
Throwing away a cell phone isn't going to take you on the same emotional roller coaster that a lost relationship will.
Break ups are hard for both parties in most cases, because each party has invested their time, money, and emotions into this other person.
There's a lot more at stake than meets the eye.
Here are the "throw away" statistics: 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.
" (http://www.
divorcerate.
org/) It might surprise some that approximately 50% of those that were divorced stated five years later that they wished they would've stayed in that marriage to try and work it out.
(http://ce.
byu.
edu/cw/fuf/archives/2002/BrentABarlow2002.
pdf) The reason for this last statistic is because people come to find out that the same problems they had in their previous relationship, recur in their newest relationship.
The reason for that is people are most likely carrying the same baggage into the newer relationship that they had brought with them into the first relationship.
Without "changing their luggage" so to speak, things are most likely not going have a different or brighter outcome.
The Old Chinese proverb can be applied: "Insanity is doing the same thing in the same way and expecting a different outcome.
" It's kind of funny when you think about it because most of us do this often.
Are we truly insane? NO! But, hopefully we understand the principle well enough to recognize that continuing down the same path will not take us onto a new road.
You have to find a NEW path to get you to your NEW goal.
That will probably require getting rid of some of that heavy old baggage and trying to find new ways to carry your loads.
I am a Certified Life Coach who specializes in working with couples who are facing these "baggage" issues and many others.
I work with individuals and couples who need help in their relationships.
I can empower you to lighten your baggage, set new goals, and find new paths to reach those goals.
Let me coach you to a new Two! TM
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