When you first got together I would imagine that you couldn't do enough for each other, you must have done enough to hold each others interests as you got married.
Once you were married and the newness and excitement of everything had started to wear of, you start to slip into some lazy routines, you might be doing it subconsciously, but for whatever reason you are committing the cardinal sin of taking your Wife for granted.
And my friend, if you want a happy marriage, or you don't want to lose her, might I suggest that you learn how not to take her for granted! Does your Wife go to work and then come home and have to do everything? Does your Wife stay at home and look after the kids while you are able to escape to work? Have you ever tried to match the amount of work that your Wife does, or do you come home from work exhausted, barely able to crash down in front of the T.
V and grunt for your food and beer? Take a long hard think about everything that your spouse has to do for you, and then consider what would you do if she wasn't there.
Those of you who have honestly though this through will probably thinking something along the lines of, oh.
And of course they will always be those who expect their wife to slave after them as their God-given right.
Irrespective of what category you fall into, do you ever show your appreciation to your Wife for everything that she does for you? Taking anyone for granted is a selfish and self-centred thing to do.
When you take your Wife for granted you are assuming that she will always be there to serve you.
What happens when she's had enough of being unappreciated, of being nothing more than a servant in her own home, have you thought about that? Where I used to live in Edinburgh, I had an awesome view of Arthur's Seat which is an extinct volcano just of the Royal Mile.
It's a spectacular place, and quite bizarre to have something like that so close to the city centre, after a while I didn't even notice it.
I had been away from Edinburgh for about 8 years and it's an amazing city with fantastic sights, which I don't really see anymore.
If you take your Wife for granted, do you really see her anymore? Just out of interest, do you treat your friends with more kindness and consideration than you do your own Wife? If you are both at work then you should share the housework between you.
You might find this hard to believe, but you won't become emasculated if you do something like wash the dishes, I know, it's hard to believe, but it's true.
If the both of you concentrate on dealing with the chores then you can have more time to spend on the important things, such as enjoying life together.
Here's something else that might shake you to the core, watching T.
V by yourself is a very sad and boring way to spend your life, if you are going to watch it, doesn't it make sense to do it in the company of the one you love.
What if your Wife stays at home to look after the kids while you go to work.
There's you being able to talk to your work mates, having being around you, and don't forget having adult conversation.
Your Wife on the other hand doesn't have the benefit of having people around her, your conversation might be the only adult conversation that she has all day.
It can be a very lonely thing looking after a home and kids, and in a situation like that a little bit of appreciation can go a long way, it's not much to hope for is it? If you want to not take your Wife for granted then you have to show her that she is appreciated and loved.
Let her she is your priority and prove it! Share the workload.
Listen to how she feels, she's your Wife, no matter how busy a day you have had what's important to her, is important to you.
Take the time to listen to her and understand how she feels.
If she needs to blow of steam then let her, don't try to interrupt, try to see things through her eyes.
Even if you have kids, you should make a commitment to each other to go on one date a week, this is your chance to say thank you to your Wife for everything that she has done for you over the week.
Make a point of spending time and talking together, a great way to do this can be if you eat your evening meal together, and not in front of the T.
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Do not take your Wife for granted.
She keeps your home running, she keeps your running, she keeps your family running, and that is a tougher job than going in to work everyday.
Your Wife might be working as well and still you expect her to do the work, you're supposed to be team so divide the chores.
Hold her, kiss her, leave cards saying how much you love and appreciate her.
Go out together, find ways to connect and really share your lives together.
Talk to her, listen to her, and be glad that you have married her.