How to Please a Woman in Bed So She Enjoys an Orgasm
If you're frustrated by the fact that you don't seem to be able to get your female partner to orgasm, then you need to sharpen up your attitude quickly.
Surveys show over half of the women in relationships who don't get an orgasm on a regular basis when they make love will have an affair.
Men often wonder why women have affairs: the answer is simple -- it's because they want good sex with orgasms, so if you don't do it for your partner, watch out in case she decides to seek her sexual pleasure elsewhere.
Now read on for "Ten Top Tips" that will transport your woman to orgasm every time (or almost every time - nothing in life is guaranteed, especially the female orgasm!) 1 Take It Slowly, Slowly, Slowly Women take, on average, at least ten to twenty times as long to reach orgasm as men.
Now, you might be thinking this sounds like a male nightmare.
But then, think about how quickly you can reach orgasm - just a few minutes, yes? So if a woman needs ten or twenty times as long as a man, it still only means half an hour or so.
Is that really too much time to ask if it gives the woman you love pleasure in bed? And the really good news is that the longer you spend on foreplay, the better your own orgasm will be when you finally have it.
So taking time to please her means sex will be better for both of you.
The only question is what you do with that time! Read on to find out.
2 Stimulate Her Skin The single most important thing that you can do to help a woman get maximum sexual pleasure is to stimulate her all over her body.
Nothing is more arousing to a woman than skin to skin contact, especially when it's coming from the man she loves.
Glide your hands softly and gently all over her body, initially keeping well away from her sexual areas.
If you touch her sexual areas too quickly, she may well feel irritated, not aroused.
For at least ten minutes, just kiss, run your hands over her body, look into her eyes, and tell her you love her.
3 Work Up To Touching Her Sexual Areas Gradually When she's beginning to melt in your arms it's a sign that you can move on to touch closer to her more intimate areas.
She'll probably find it very arousing for you to caress around these areas, gliding over her breasts, belly, inner thighs and then gradually working nearer and nearer to her genitals and nipples.
In fact, you can tease her by moving towards and away from these areas - the anticipation of your touch on her most sexual places may well make her highly aroused very quickly.
4 Find Out What She Likes When she's finally ready for a more sexual touch, make sure that you do it in a way that turns her on.
There's no single formula for all women: what suits one will turn another off very quickly.
That's where your skill as a lover comes into play.
You have to find out exactly what your partner wants you to do to her, exactly what will make her reach a fulfilling climax during sex.
For example, some women prefer touch to the side of the clitoris, while others will prefer you to massage it gently through the folds of flesh around it.
Others appreciate a gentle direct touch to the clitoris itself - but only when they are already aroused.
Some women will prefer you to run a well-lubricated finger up, down and over the whole area, whereas others will go wild when you slowly and gently penetrate them with a fingertip.
One good thing for a man's point of view about the uncertainty of how to make love to woman is that it's great fun finding out what turns her on! 5 Tell Her You Love Her What really makes a woman enjoy a wonderful orgasm is the sense that she's making love to a man who's opened his heart to her, the man she loves.
So even if you find it difficult to tell her that you love her, make the effort to do so -- with the exception that if it isn't true, don't ever say it.
Instead, you can tell her all about her beautiful qualities: how attractive she is, how much she turns you on, how hot she makes you, that she's a beautiful woman and a gorgeous spirit.
Or words to that effect.
And, come to think of it, you can tell her all that even if you have told her that you love her as well.
6 Don't Enter Her Too Soon Do not, under any circumstances, try and penetrate her too soon.
You're a man, and of course you want to get into this haven that she has to offer you.
However nothing can be more unwelcome for a woman during your lovemaking than penetration before she's ready.
And here's a clue: the fact that she's lubricated doesn't necessarily mean she's ready for you to enter her.
All it means is that her body is ready.
She has to be emotionally ready as well, ready to open up to you in every sense, so she can receive you emotionally and physically.
How do you know when this moment's arrived? Answer: there are various clues, but one of them is that she'll start moving her hips and pelvis up to me you.
For example, if you happen to be playing with her clitoris, she'll probably start thrusting her body's sexual parts gently upwards, or moving it with more force, to meet the pressure of your hand...
7 Give Her Oral Pleasure ...
and, if you happen to be giving her oral pleasure, you'll definitely feel her moving her pelvis up to meet the pressure of your tongue.
And by the way, in case you didn't already know, one golden rule of lovemaking is "Women Come First!" What does this mean? It means that the best way to compensate for any tendency you have to reach your own orgasm too quickly (which is normal, by the way, in that 75% of men come sooner than their partners would like), is to give her an orgasm through oral pleasure before you enter her.
In survey after survey, the vast majority of women say that oral pleasure is their favorite sexual activity with a man.
Why? Because it's warm, it's wet, it's slippery, it offers everything a woman enjoys in the way of intimate stimulation, and it's very effective in bringing her to orgasm.
8 Don't Expect Her To Reach Orgasm Through Sexual Intercourse I'm assuming that you're a well-educated, intelligent, enlightened man, and you know that most women don't reach orgasm through sexual intercourse.
That might be a blow to your male ego, but unfortunately it's absolutely true.
That's why you need to follow the rule explained in number 7 above.
Don't expect her to come just because you thrust away until you reach orgasm.
If you do that, all you'll end up with is a woman who's frustrated and unhappy about your selfishness, and although you might have a satisfactory orgasm, you won't get the emotional satisfaction of giving her sexual pleasure -- something which is fundamental to the male ego.
9 Make Love To Her Like A Man So, assuming that she's enjoyed an orgasm through oral sex or in some other way with you, and that you're eager to go, and pleased with yourself because you've managed to bring her to orgasm, now is the time to enter her.
If you're sensitive as a lover, you'll be able to judge the moment to perfection, and you'll be able to judge whether or not she's in the mood for a romantic gesture from you.
And that is? Well, how about saying to her: "Darling, nothing would give me more pleasure than to enjoy your body.
May I enter you now?" If you don't think that's a romantic and loving thing to do, then you need to brush up on your romantic skills and work out why women like it.
(Hint: it shows you care about them, something that goes straight to woman's heart.
) 10 Thank Her Afterwards - By Your Actions, Not Your Words If you enter her after she's already had an orgasm, you'll find that her body is beautifully warm, wet and swollen.
There's no greater physical pleasure for a man than enjoying connection in this way with his lover after she's had an orgasm.
And she'll enjoy it too, because she's now ready to receive you.
The longer you can last, the more enjoyable it will be for both of you, so make sure that you brush up on controlling any tendency you have to come too soon.
And then, once it's all over, make sure that you cuddle her, whisper a few sweet nothings into her ear, and hold her for a while after making love.
Does it work? Yes it does.
If you follow all ten tips above, you'll find that your relationship improves out of all recognition, because a sexually satisfied woman is a happy woman, and a happy woman will wants to be in a relationship with you, sharing your lovemaking skills on a regular basis.
Surveys show over half of the women in relationships who don't get an orgasm on a regular basis when they make love will have an affair.
Men often wonder why women have affairs: the answer is simple -- it's because they want good sex with orgasms, so if you don't do it for your partner, watch out in case she decides to seek her sexual pleasure elsewhere.
Now read on for "Ten Top Tips" that will transport your woman to orgasm every time (or almost every time - nothing in life is guaranteed, especially the female orgasm!) 1 Take It Slowly, Slowly, Slowly Women take, on average, at least ten to twenty times as long to reach orgasm as men.
Now, you might be thinking this sounds like a male nightmare.
But then, think about how quickly you can reach orgasm - just a few minutes, yes? So if a woman needs ten or twenty times as long as a man, it still only means half an hour or so.
Is that really too much time to ask if it gives the woman you love pleasure in bed? And the really good news is that the longer you spend on foreplay, the better your own orgasm will be when you finally have it.
So taking time to please her means sex will be better for both of you.
The only question is what you do with that time! Read on to find out.
2 Stimulate Her Skin The single most important thing that you can do to help a woman get maximum sexual pleasure is to stimulate her all over her body.
Nothing is more arousing to a woman than skin to skin contact, especially when it's coming from the man she loves.
Glide your hands softly and gently all over her body, initially keeping well away from her sexual areas.
If you touch her sexual areas too quickly, she may well feel irritated, not aroused.
For at least ten minutes, just kiss, run your hands over her body, look into her eyes, and tell her you love her.
3 Work Up To Touching Her Sexual Areas Gradually When she's beginning to melt in your arms it's a sign that you can move on to touch closer to her more intimate areas.
She'll probably find it very arousing for you to caress around these areas, gliding over her breasts, belly, inner thighs and then gradually working nearer and nearer to her genitals and nipples.
In fact, you can tease her by moving towards and away from these areas - the anticipation of your touch on her most sexual places may well make her highly aroused very quickly.
4 Find Out What She Likes When she's finally ready for a more sexual touch, make sure that you do it in a way that turns her on.
There's no single formula for all women: what suits one will turn another off very quickly.
That's where your skill as a lover comes into play.
You have to find out exactly what your partner wants you to do to her, exactly what will make her reach a fulfilling climax during sex.
For example, some women prefer touch to the side of the clitoris, while others will prefer you to massage it gently through the folds of flesh around it.
Others appreciate a gentle direct touch to the clitoris itself - but only when they are already aroused.
Some women will prefer you to run a well-lubricated finger up, down and over the whole area, whereas others will go wild when you slowly and gently penetrate them with a fingertip.
One good thing for a man's point of view about the uncertainty of how to make love to woman is that it's great fun finding out what turns her on! 5 Tell Her You Love Her What really makes a woman enjoy a wonderful orgasm is the sense that she's making love to a man who's opened his heart to her, the man she loves.
So even if you find it difficult to tell her that you love her, make the effort to do so -- with the exception that if it isn't true, don't ever say it.
Instead, you can tell her all about her beautiful qualities: how attractive she is, how much she turns you on, how hot she makes you, that she's a beautiful woman and a gorgeous spirit.
Or words to that effect.
And, come to think of it, you can tell her all that even if you have told her that you love her as well.
6 Don't Enter Her Too Soon Do not, under any circumstances, try and penetrate her too soon.
You're a man, and of course you want to get into this haven that she has to offer you.
However nothing can be more unwelcome for a woman during your lovemaking than penetration before she's ready.
And here's a clue: the fact that she's lubricated doesn't necessarily mean she's ready for you to enter her.
All it means is that her body is ready.
She has to be emotionally ready as well, ready to open up to you in every sense, so she can receive you emotionally and physically.
How do you know when this moment's arrived? Answer: there are various clues, but one of them is that she'll start moving her hips and pelvis up to me you.
For example, if you happen to be playing with her clitoris, she'll probably start thrusting her body's sexual parts gently upwards, or moving it with more force, to meet the pressure of your hand...
7 Give Her Oral Pleasure ...
and, if you happen to be giving her oral pleasure, you'll definitely feel her moving her pelvis up to meet the pressure of your tongue.
And by the way, in case you didn't already know, one golden rule of lovemaking is "Women Come First!" What does this mean? It means that the best way to compensate for any tendency you have to reach your own orgasm too quickly (which is normal, by the way, in that 75% of men come sooner than their partners would like), is to give her an orgasm through oral pleasure before you enter her.
In survey after survey, the vast majority of women say that oral pleasure is their favorite sexual activity with a man.
Why? Because it's warm, it's wet, it's slippery, it offers everything a woman enjoys in the way of intimate stimulation, and it's very effective in bringing her to orgasm.
8 Don't Expect Her To Reach Orgasm Through Sexual Intercourse I'm assuming that you're a well-educated, intelligent, enlightened man, and you know that most women don't reach orgasm through sexual intercourse.
That might be a blow to your male ego, but unfortunately it's absolutely true.
That's why you need to follow the rule explained in number 7 above.
Don't expect her to come just because you thrust away until you reach orgasm.
If you do that, all you'll end up with is a woman who's frustrated and unhappy about your selfishness, and although you might have a satisfactory orgasm, you won't get the emotional satisfaction of giving her sexual pleasure -- something which is fundamental to the male ego.
9 Make Love To Her Like A Man So, assuming that she's enjoyed an orgasm through oral sex or in some other way with you, and that you're eager to go, and pleased with yourself because you've managed to bring her to orgasm, now is the time to enter her.
If you're sensitive as a lover, you'll be able to judge the moment to perfection, and you'll be able to judge whether or not she's in the mood for a romantic gesture from you.
And that is? Well, how about saying to her: "Darling, nothing would give me more pleasure than to enjoy your body.
May I enter you now?" If you don't think that's a romantic and loving thing to do, then you need to brush up on your romantic skills and work out why women like it.
(Hint: it shows you care about them, something that goes straight to woman's heart.
) 10 Thank Her Afterwards - By Your Actions, Not Your Words If you enter her after she's already had an orgasm, you'll find that her body is beautifully warm, wet and swollen.
There's no greater physical pleasure for a man than enjoying connection in this way with his lover after she's had an orgasm.
And she'll enjoy it too, because she's now ready to receive you.
The longer you can last, the more enjoyable it will be for both of you, so make sure that you brush up on controlling any tendency you have to come too soon.
And then, once it's all over, make sure that you cuddle her, whisper a few sweet nothings into her ear, and hold her for a while after making love.
Does it work? Yes it does.
If you follow all ten tips above, you'll find that your relationship improves out of all recognition, because a sexually satisfied woman is a happy woman, and a happy woman will wants to be in a relationship with you, sharing your lovemaking skills on a regular basis.
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