Do:

Read the papers before a date so that you have some subjects of current interest to talk about. Sometimes it is easier to talk about your view of current affairs than it is to talk about yourself.

Practice your listening skills. Listening is a really important part of conversation, if you are both talking and no-one is listening you won't get very far.

Show your enthusiasm. What things in your life are you really passionate about? What lights you up? Talk about these subjects and share your interest with your date. Even if they aren't interested in the same things your enthusiasm and willingness to share will encourage them to tell you what they are passionate about.

Ask questions – the worst kind of dates are those with someone who is completely self-absorbed and the only question they want the answer to is what you think of them! Be interested in your date and give them the time and space to tell you things about themselves even if they are not as chatty as you.

 

Don't:

Talk about problems. Even if you have had a life that resembles the omnibus of Eastenders a date is not the time to share it – you are looking for a partner, not a therapist. There will come a time later, when the relationship has developed, when it's appropriate to share these things with your partner and it will bring you closer. Sharing too much too soon can scare people off.

Talk about money. The subject of money can be off-putting and uncomfortable whether you are talking about how little or how much you have, problems with it, or a desire for much more of it – a date is not the time to talk about it. All you need to know on those first few dates is that you have enough to pay your share of the bill (even if you think you won't have to) and to get you home.

Have conversations with other people on your mobile. Put it on silent and away out of sight for the duration of your date. Three is a crowd.

 

The Author Bio:

A people person and a relationships expert, I've recently turned my attention to helping online daters find love, happiness and fulfilment. I offer advice, guidance and tips to some of the largest online communities in Europe and the USA, including www.eharmony.co.uk.