Becoming a Relationship Thermostat
We all know what thermometers and thermostats do.
A thermometer registers the temperature of the atmosphere around it.
A thermostat sets the temperature.
Which of these devices do you think it's better to be in a relationship? If you said the thermostat, you're right.
After all, how many times have we said things like "He makes me so mad" or "She's driving me crazy" in the heat of an argument? Wouldn't it be nice to be unaffected (to a reasonable point) by the action of others, and instead "set" your own reactions based on how you want to feel? In other words, wouldn't it be nice to make up your mind to be cool, calm and collected, no matter what life (or a partner) might throw at you? Adjust Your Attitude Becoming a thermostat is easier than you might be thinking.
It's a worthwhile change to make, since it can benefit every single relationship you enter into, whether they are intimate, work-related, or family relationships.
A thermostat generally operates in a calm, even manner.
This is very different from a emotionless person.
Rather, a thermostat tries to keep themselves feeling good, which is usually a calming feeling.
When they are happy, they're happy, and when they're sad, they're sad.
When they're sad, however, they're much more likely to look within and find the source of the sadness, rather than wallow in it or blame others.
If a thermostat finds himself or herself in a disagreement, they usually operate on the knowledge that it is nearly impossible to change somebody else's mind, especially in the heat of an argument.
Instead, the thermostat will remain as calm as possible, while explaining his or her point of view.
Then, they can allow the other person to react as they wish, knowing that no amount of screaming or arguing can change their mind.
A Simple Concept It's funny how such a simple idea can create such positive change in individuals and in relationships.
If you follow a few simple guidelines, you can begin acting as a thermostat.
You'll see that this manner of thinking will have wonderful results, not only in your romantic relationships, but in your work and family relations, as well.
Decide what you want out of life.
Instead of letting circumstances, the actions of others, or any outside influence dictate your life, choose it for yourself.
You'll be amazed, once you make up your mind that your life is yours to live, how much can change.
Keep a close eye on your inner dialogue.
If you find yourself making harsh assumptions, examine why you feel that way.
If you find yourself thinking "He's such a jerk...
he never considers my feelings" when your partner forgets something important, stop and think.
Yes, he forgot, but do you have to react to it? More to the point, do you have to react to it in a confrontational manner? You may learn a lot about yourself in the process, and avoid negative confrontations.
A thermometer registers the temperature of the atmosphere around it.
A thermostat sets the temperature.
Which of these devices do you think it's better to be in a relationship? If you said the thermostat, you're right.
After all, how many times have we said things like "He makes me so mad" or "She's driving me crazy" in the heat of an argument? Wouldn't it be nice to be unaffected (to a reasonable point) by the action of others, and instead "set" your own reactions based on how you want to feel? In other words, wouldn't it be nice to make up your mind to be cool, calm and collected, no matter what life (or a partner) might throw at you? Adjust Your Attitude Becoming a thermostat is easier than you might be thinking.
It's a worthwhile change to make, since it can benefit every single relationship you enter into, whether they are intimate, work-related, or family relationships.
A thermostat generally operates in a calm, even manner.
This is very different from a emotionless person.
Rather, a thermostat tries to keep themselves feeling good, which is usually a calming feeling.
When they are happy, they're happy, and when they're sad, they're sad.
When they're sad, however, they're much more likely to look within and find the source of the sadness, rather than wallow in it or blame others.
If a thermostat finds himself or herself in a disagreement, they usually operate on the knowledge that it is nearly impossible to change somebody else's mind, especially in the heat of an argument.
Instead, the thermostat will remain as calm as possible, while explaining his or her point of view.
Then, they can allow the other person to react as they wish, knowing that no amount of screaming or arguing can change their mind.
A Simple Concept It's funny how such a simple idea can create such positive change in individuals and in relationships.
If you follow a few simple guidelines, you can begin acting as a thermostat.
You'll see that this manner of thinking will have wonderful results, not only in your romantic relationships, but in your work and family relations, as well.
Decide what you want out of life.
Instead of letting circumstances, the actions of others, or any outside influence dictate your life, choose it for yourself.
You'll be amazed, once you make up your mind that your life is yours to live, how much can change.
Keep a close eye on your inner dialogue.
If you find yourself making harsh assumptions, examine why you feel that way.
If you find yourself thinking "He's such a jerk...
he never considers my feelings" when your partner forgets something important, stop and think.
Yes, he forgot, but do you have to react to it? More to the point, do you have to react to it in a confrontational manner? You may learn a lot about yourself in the process, and avoid negative confrontations.
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