How to survive your inner critic
Don't feel that bad events or a dreadful childhood have to condemn you to a life of problems. Many people survive troubled families and go own to develop good self-esteem. The majority of adult children of alcoholics do not repeat their parents' drinking patterns, and the same is true of adults who have survived families troubled by mental illness, chronic marital problems, racial discrimination and poverty.
Some children naturally rebound from knock-backs with their self-esteem intact. If you need help doing this now you're an adult, talking to a therapist can help.
The way we view our experiences affects the inner voice we all hear from time to time. Of course, the inner critic can appear in non verbal ways too - it can appear in the form of a feeling or sensation. Ever felt like trying something new but didn't because you had the feeling you would not be good enough? Well, that is your inner critic doing its usual trick of holding you back and putting you down. If you ever experience this type of feeling more than a 'can do' attitude then it's time to retune to your inner coach again.
Why again, you ask? The answer is because our inner coach is the loudest voice inside us as children. Think about how daring you are as a child. Consider all the new things you are willing to try and the people you are happy to give the benefit of the doubt to. The inner critic sets in as we get older, more cynical and worldly wise.
The inner critic is the part of you that sticks to playing safe, to not speak to that cool looking person in a bar, to not have the bottle to ask your boss about a raise.
It is up to you to decide what you would rather have between an inner coach and an inner critic. Your inner coach is encouraging, constructive and empowering while your inner critic is paralysing, destructive and submissive. Obviously we need to be able to critique our behaviour in a constructive way, and yet so many people end up by putting themselves down.
One of the best ways to develop the inner coach is through relaxation. Maintain a positive attitude when times are tough by visualising or thinking about something relaxing. Take a few moments to imagine a favourite place, floating in the sea or lying in bed, and you'll switch into a calmer physical state.
Wait! For a 100% free video on how to destroy negative thinking patterns visit: http://www.ConfidenceTriggers.com
Some children naturally rebound from knock-backs with their self-esteem intact. If you need help doing this now you're an adult, talking to a therapist can help.
The way we view our experiences affects the inner voice we all hear from time to time. Of course, the inner critic can appear in non verbal ways too - it can appear in the form of a feeling or sensation. Ever felt like trying something new but didn't because you had the feeling you would not be good enough? Well, that is your inner critic doing its usual trick of holding you back and putting you down. If you ever experience this type of feeling more than a 'can do' attitude then it's time to retune to your inner coach again.
Why again, you ask? The answer is because our inner coach is the loudest voice inside us as children. Think about how daring you are as a child. Consider all the new things you are willing to try and the people you are happy to give the benefit of the doubt to. The inner critic sets in as we get older, more cynical and worldly wise.
The inner critic is the part of you that sticks to playing safe, to not speak to that cool looking person in a bar, to not have the bottle to ask your boss about a raise.
It is up to you to decide what you would rather have between an inner coach and an inner critic. Your inner coach is encouraging, constructive and empowering while your inner critic is paralysing, destructive and submissive. Obviously we need to be able to critique our behaviour in a constructive way, and yet so many people end up by putting themselves down.
One of the best ways to develop the inner coach is through relaxation. Maintain a positive attitude when times are tough by visualising or thinking about something relaxing. Take a few moments to imagine a favourite place, floating in the sea or lying in bed, and you'll switch into a calmer physical state.
Wait! For a 100% free video on how to destroy negative thinking patterns visit: http://www.ConfidenceTriggers.com
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