Tips on Getting Your Partner Interested in Swinging
Swinging can be a great activity for a couple to take part in.
Done the right way, it need not be damaging to your relationship at all.
In fact, the consensus amongst most 'successful' swingers is that it actually enhances their relationship and brings them closer together.
However, while there are thousands of happy swinging couples worldwide, there are also many people in a relationship who would like to try swinging but who have a partner who is not keen.
Their attitude may be from simply not interested to being totally negative about the idea.
If you have a wife or husband in this category, don't despair.
Your dream of being swingers need not die.
The first thing you must do is not get angry or upset with your wife or husband's reaction if you bring up the idea of being swingers.
Trying to plead with them or in any way coerce them into trying it will not only get no positive result, it could even harm your relationship.
Even if you do get them to agree to try it this way, it will probably not be a pleasant experience for you both; you certainly won't be able to relax and enjoy it.
When you introduce the idea of swinging, remember that your wife or husband will have beliefs about what swinging means and why you would want to try it.
Does it mean you don't find them attractive enough? Are you bored with your sex life? These thoughts may be going through their head.
In fact, they may even fear that by becoming swingers you will find someone else more attractive than them and leave them! So your whole focus in introducing swinging to your wife or husband is to remove their fears.
You do this by letting them know that you love and adore them more than anyone else, and that your reason for wanting to try swinging is to enhance the sex life you already have with them.
You need to let them know that swinging is not about replacing any gaps in your relationship.
It is all about adding some spice and sharing the experience together.
You could even let them know that because you find them so attractive and sexy, seeing them turning someone else on would be highly arousing for them.
Also make sure that you make your wife or husband feel safe in your sexual relationship.
Build up their trust in you.
Let them now that you would never hurt them or allow them to be hurt in a swinging situation.
If you approach the idea of swinging with your partner in this way you not only have a much greater chance of taking part in the swinger lifestyle, but of you both enjoying it as well.
Done the right way, it need not be damaging to your relationship at all.
In fact, the consensus amongst most 'successful' swingers is that it actually enhances their relationship and brings them closer together.
However, while there are thousands of happy swinging couples worldwide, there are also many people in a relationship who would like to try swinging but who have a partner who is not keen.
Their attitude may be from simply not interested to being totally negative about the idea.
If you have a wife or husband in this category, don't despair.
Your dream of being swingers need not die.
The first thing you must do is not get angry or upset with your wife or husband's reaction if you bring up the idea of being swingers.
Trying to plead with them or in any way coerce them into trying it will not only get no positive result, it could even harm your relationship.
Even if you do get them to agree to try it this way, it will probably not be a pleasant experience for you both; you certainly won't be able to relax and enjoy it.
When you introduce the idea of swinging, remember that your wife or husband will have beliefs about what swinging means and why you would want to try it.
Does it mean you don't find them attractive enough? Are you bored with your sex life? These thoughts may be going through their head.
In fact, they may even fear that by becoming swingers you will find someone else more attractive than them and leave them! So your whole focus in introducing swinging to your wife or husband is to remove their fears.
You do this by letting them know that you love and adore them more than anyone else, and that your reason for wanting to try swinging is to enhance the sex life you already have with them.
You need to let them know that swinging is not about replacing any gaps in your relationship.
It is all about adding some spice and sharing the experience together.
You could even let them know that because you find them so attractive and sexy, seeing them turning someone else on would be highly arousing for them.
Also make sure that you make your wife or husband feel safe in your sexual relationship.
Build up their trust in you.
Let them now that you would never hurt them or allow them to be hurt in a swinging situation.
If you approach the idea of swinging with your partner in this way you not only have a much greater chance of taking part in the swinger lifestyle, but of you both enjoying it as well.
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