Evolving And Loving Yourself Through Divorce
I believe one of the most difficult challenges we experience regarding divorce is to love ourselves throughout the process.
We must always remember that love is the most significant component to all our experiences, and when we live our lives fully and completely we will have many different experiences.
We may not always be pleased with what we face and what we experience, but it is a part of life.
Going through a divorce we lose our closest friend or partner and the love they may have offered.
We often depart the relationship with a distorted image of what love actually is, after entering into relationships that are disappointing and partners we don't understand or who don't resonate with us.
We depart depleted and disenchanted, wondering what it actually means to love and be loved.
We feel hurt, vulnerable and decide it is easier to give up on committed relationship, taking on relationships that won't allow us to look deeply into ourselves or others.
We enter into relationships that only skim the surface, so that we can stay afloat emotionally, not addressing the real issues of love and life, moving from person to person.
When we do this we are avoiding the inevitable, which is getting only that which we give and if we don't love we can't receive love.
When we interact on this level it is simply because we don't esteem ourselves and lack self worth, we do it from a place of fear.
It is particularly during these times that we should delve deeply into our souls in order tosee ourselves and grow.
Divorce is a refining process, relationship is a growth process, and if it isn't working it only means you have more work to do.
Fire burns the dross and leaves what is valuable.
Rather than beating yourself up, giving up on relationship or yourself, why not try to begin to truly love yourself.
Love is the essential component to all of life, and life is relationships, whether the relationship be marriage, intimate, or platonic.
What you must realize is that any relationship you are in is your creation, and your partner is one half of this equation.
So while experiencing your divorce or breakup examine yourself and to try and determine why the relationship did not work.
Do all this in a loving way and your next relationship will be more fulfilling and possibly last as long as you desire.
Last of all remember these specific points.
1.
Keep a daily journal that you can look back on to see how you have grown through the process.
2.
Do not doubt, berate or judge yourself.
3.
Trust your intuition.
4.
Nurture yourself.
5.
Pay attention to your feelings and emotions.
6.
Be true to yourself throughout the process.
7.
Learn to love yourself for exactly who you are.
Always pray, and meditate creating time and space for you to evolve to create the person you'd like to be in order to have the person you want in your life.
"We are all functioning at a small fraction of our capacity to live fully in it's totally meaning of loving, caring, creating and adventuring.
Consequently, the actualizing of our potential can become the most exciting adventure in our lifetime.
" ~Herbert Otto
We must always remember that love is the most significant component to all our experiences, and when we live our lives fully and completely we will have many different experiences.
We may not always be pleased with what we face and what we experience, but it is a part of life.
Going through a divorce we lose our closest friend or partner and the love they may have offered.
We often depart the relationship with a distorted image of what love actually is, after entering into relationships that are disappointing and partners we don't understand or who don't resonate with us.
We depart depleted and disenchanted, wondering what it actually means to love and be loved.
We feel hurt, vulnerable and decide it is easier to give up on committed relationship, taking on relationships that won't allow us to look deeply into ourselves or others.
We enter into relationships that only skim the surface, so that we can stay afloat emotionally, not addressing the real issues of love and life, moving from person to person.
When we do this we are avoiding the inevitable, which is getting only that which we give and if we don't love we can't receive love.
When we interact on this level it is simply because we don't esteem ourselves and lack self worth, we do it from a place of fear.
It is particularly during these times that we should delve deeply into our souls in order tosee ourselves and grow.
Divorce is a refining process, relationship is a growth process, and if it isn't working it only means you have more work to do.
Fire burns the dross and leaves what is valuable.
Rather than beating yourself up, giving up on relationship or yourself, why not try to begin to truly love yourself.
Love is the essential component to all of life, and life is relationships, whether the relationship be marriage, intimate, or platonic.
What you must realize is that any relationship you are in is your creation, and your partner is one half of this equation.
So while experiencing your divorce or breakup examine yourself and to try and determine why the relationship did not work.
Do all this in a loving way and your next relationship will be more fulfilling and possibly last as long as you desire.
Last of all remember these specific points.
1.
Keep a daily journal that you can look back on to see how you have grown through the process.
2.
Do not doubt, berate or judge yourself.
3.
Trust your intuition.
4.
Nurture yourself.
5.
Pay attention to your feelings and emotions.
6.
Be true to yourself throughout the process.
7.
Learn to love yourself for exactly who you are.
Always pray, and meditate creating time and space for you to evolve to create the person you'd like to be in order to have the person you want in your life.
"We are all functioning at a small fraction of our capacity to live fully in it's totally meaning of loving, caring, creating and adventuring.
Consequently, the actualizing of our potential can become the most exciting adventure in our lifetime.
" ~Herbert Otto
Source...