First you have to engage our minds and hearts, this is easy if you are already good looking and have plenty of money to impress good communication skills and us with. If you are lacking in both then this is not important as long as you can pull us into thinking about you and feeling for you then you are pretty much there. Sex is very important but being upfront about sex too soon will just NOT work when it comes to messaging us as we will receive sometimes hundreds of such messages a day. A typical message will be anything from would you like to meet up for sex? To wow gorgeous would you like to have sex with a young red-hot male?

These messages will often get deleted and binned pretty much as a matter of course, as reading hundreds of these gets plain boring to read on a day-to-day basis. Id also avoid the really long messages too as sometimes these feel very scripted and are usually seen as copy and paste messages, that we females know will be going out to hundreds of other females and again delete and bin them. So its important your messages stand out if you are to achieve results. I often hear men complaining they have used these sites for years and often never even get a response so don't be one of them.

A message I  found interesting from young men would always be original, something you have never received before, this can simply be focusing on something like how long you have been single and showing a slight sensitivity in regards to dating, and basically showing the side that draws us in. Id then follow through once you have there interest , these does not mean a simple message then moving on to next, but a more focused approach which really concentrates on one female at a time.

If she does not respond at first be persistent, and one simple message a day for several weeks should start to make you stand out a bit for several reasons, one is it makes her think you are seriously into her which will appeal and also that you are consistent. If you are patent it will pay off, also try not to be on the cougar site too often as this will look like you are chasing too many women and she will just let you get on with it, remember nobody likes just being an option, she has to feel you are serious and mean business.

Balance is also important, so if you could stick to a message a day but if she is on line message only her and build them up slowly,she will be flattered at worst, crazy to meet you at best. Once I got messages from a guy who I found not that attractive, yet within weeks I would think about him and enjoy going on just to see and talk to him. Why? Because he followed this pattern of messaging and also I noticed he would look up my photos every single day, it was exciting so feelings started to grow, and once you have reached that stage here you are pretty much sorted.