Dating Advice for Women - Do You Attract the Same Guy Over and Over Again?
Something I have observed over the years is, a lot of women tend to attract the same guy over and over again. He may not literally be the same guy, but it is the same kind of guy that comes into a woman's life time and time again. There are all sorts of reasons for this, but what I want to expand on is, if you are having problems with attracting the wrong men - are you caught up in a pattern where you keep on attracting the same guy over and over?
Because, if you are... then you need to come to the realization that patterns can break.
Recently, I had a discussion with an old friend of mine who was caught up in yet another heartbreaking situation. She was having a lot of problems with her new boyfriend, but to be honest, it sounded as if she was just talking about her old boyfriend all over again.
A lot of women seem to get caught up in this pattern, and then they wonder why they seem to always attract the wrong guy or that they always seem to get hurt in relationships. It's too bad, because once you see the pattern and you know the way it affects you... then it is up to you to try and change that pattern.
How do you break the pattern?
The first step to breaking the pattern is to recognize that there actually is one. In regards to my friend, I've had this discussion with her before, but she refuses to recognize that there is a pattern. And she did it again this time. So, I suspect that there will be another time when she comes to me with the same problems all over again... just with another new guy. If you want to break the pattern, then you need to first acknowledge that there is one.
The next step is to feel how much following that pattern hurts you. Remember all of the bad experiences for a moment. Feel how much they hurt you. Ask yourself, are you really willing to go through all of that again? If not, then you are ready for the change.
Rebuild a NEW YOU...
Once you have recognized the pattern of dating the same kind of guy over and over, and you realize just how much it hurts you, you have to rebuild a new you. This means that you have to make some changes. Sometimes it is as simple as changing where you go to meet guys. Other times, it means that you really have to work on building up your self confidence so that you won't accept the same routine anymore.
Because, if you are... then you need to come to the realization that patterns can break.
Recently, I had a discussion with an old friend of mine who was caught up in yet another heartbreaking situation. She was having a lot of problems with her new boyfriend, but to be honest, it sounded as if she was just talking about her old boyfriend all over again.
A lot of women seem to get caught up in this pattern, and then they wonder why they seem to always attract the wrong guy or that they always seem to get hurt in relationships. It's too bad, because once you see the pattern and you know the way it affects you... then it is up to you to try and change that pattern.
How do you break the pattern?
The first step to breaking the pattern is to recognize that there actually is one. In regards to my friend, I've had this discussion with her before, but she refuses to recognize that there is a pattern. And she did it again this time. So, I suspect that there will be another time when she comes to me with the same problems all over again... just with another new guy. If you want to break the pattern, then you need to first acknowledge that there is one.
The next step is to feel how much following that pattern hurts you. Remember all of the bad experiences for a moment. Feel how much they hurt you. Ask yourself, are you really willing to go through all of that again? If not, then you are ready for the change.
Rebuild a NEW YOU...
Once you have recognized the pattern of dating the same kind of guy over and over, and you realize just how much it hurts you, you have to rebuild a new you. This means that you have to make some changes. Sometimes it is as simple as changing where you go to meet guys. Other times, it means that you really have to work on building up your self confidence so that you won't accept the same routine anymore.
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