How (Not) to Ruin Your First Date
Are you the kind of woman who has no trouble getting dates, but for some reason men don't call back? Are you wondering why it felt like you hit it off with a guy but he never asked you out again? There are some very simple rules to follow when on a first date that will ensure that the guy you're with will actually call.
The following list includes a lot of things women do on first dates without even realizing it that can send a man running in the other direction.
Don't spend the entire date talking about other men you've been with or other dates you've been on.
Beyond that, don't sit there and compare the man you're on a date with to other men you've been on dates with! No guy wants to feel like he is being measured against your dating history for the duration of a first date.
You two are just starting to get to know each other -- there has to be more to your personality than who you've dated in the past.
Let him in on THAT side of you, not the side that has had so many failed relationships.
Similarly, it's imperative that even if you are trying to compliment him, you don't compare him to any of your exes.
He doesn't want to know that he's buying a more expensive dinner than your ex did or that he dresses better.
Even in a positive light, comparing him to your ex can put a bad taste in the new guy's mouth.
Avoid topics surrounding the future.
You've just met this man, are you really considering what color your future bedspread will be? Explore similar interests or people you may know in common instead.
Talk about music, politics or hobbies that either of you have.
You don't know whether you will even go on a second date with this guy, so why are you telling him how many children you want? One of the easiest ways to scare a guy off is to start talking about your potential future together prematurely.
You should also avoid narrating how well you two get along.
Sure, you may have similar interests and a lot in common, but why sit there listing all the things you have in common instead of talking about things you have in common? Don't pressure him into believing you two are destined together on the first date just because you have the same taste in movies.
The following list includes a lot of things women do on first dates without even realizing it that can send a man running in the other direction.
Don't spend the entire date talking about other men you've been with or other dates you've been on.
Beyond that, don't sit there and compare the man you're on a date with to other men you've been on dates with! No guy wants to feel like he is being measured against your dating history for the duration of a first date.
You two are just starting to get to know each other -- there has to be more to your personality than who you've dated in the past.
Let him in on THAT side of you, not the side that has had so many failed relationships.
Similarly, it's imperative that even if you are trying to compliment him, you don't compare him to any of your exes.
He doesn't want to know that he's buying a more expensive dinner than your ex did or that he dresses better.
Even in a positive light, comparing him to your ex can put a bad taste in the new guy's mouth.
Avoid topics surrounding the future.
You've just met this man, are you really considering what color your future bedspread will be? Explore similar interests or people you may know in common instead.
Talk about music, politics or hobbies that either of you have.
You don't know whether you will even go on a second date with this guy, so why are you telling him how many children you want? One of the easiest ways to scare a guy off is to start talking about your potential future together prematurely.
You should also avoid narrating how well you two get along.
Sure, you may have similar interests and a lot in common, but why sit there listing all the things you have in common instead of talking about things you have in common? Don't pressure him into believing you two are destined together on the first date just because you have the same taste in movies.
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