The Key to Meeting New People - Actually Meeting the New Ones
One of the biggest challenges many people claim to face is that of meeting new people.
Now obviously this is a bit of a generalization; we meet new people every day, whether it's through work, on the bus, or while being waited on at a restaurant or supermarket.
People are every, which is a fact of life.
What most people really mean when they say they want to "meet new people" then is that they want to "make new friends.
" With a population of over two hundred million in the United States alone you wouldn't think there was any shortage of potential candidates for friendship out there.
And that's million, by the way, a number so huge it's difficult to wrap your head around - that's the number of unique, individual people living their lives all around you, sharing your culture, doing the things that you do.
Clearly then, the deficiency isn't in the number of people to choose from.
Nonetheless it can seem amazingly difficult to find friends: people who are like minded, friendly, and also looking to meet new people.
The keyword here is of course "seem" - it is in actuality simple to meet people and make friends, and a few guidelines are all that's needed to make the whole process smooth and comfortable for everyone.
Of course the most obvious ways to meet people are school and work, and also at the parties, social gatherings or recommendation of existing friends.
This goes hand in hand with what I said before about us "meeting" new people every day.
You don't have to be especially clever to realize all of this.
You do, however, have to be in the right frame of mind to attract friends.
Realize a couple of things:
All that is necessary to do this is to slow down for a couple of minutes to really interact in a meaningful way with the people who surround you in the present moment.
(If you're always in a rush to your next destination, you're not likely to stop and talk to anybody!) When I mentioned how you can look at people and tell who's compatible, I don't mean based on appearance; which is one of the biggest misconceptions people in general would do well to release.
I'm talking about their mannerisms: how they carry themselves, snippets of their dialogue you might overhear, products they might be looking at or purchasing.
These things are obvious if you're taking the time to look, and can be a perfect way to strike up a conversation.
If you're nervous about being the one to speak first--good.
Shyness is one of the biggest reasons that people don't talk to other people, not because they "don't like" certain people.
How could they, if they don't even know you? Realize that while your own shyness is causing you to keep quiet, theirs is very likely doing the same; once you break the ice, it's possible the two of you will actually get along smashingly.
Remember these thoughts the next time you go to start a discourse with a stranger, and they should bring you enough confidence to throw them a smile and actually go through with it and get started forming some great new friendships.
Now obviously this is a bit of a generalization; we meet new people every day, whether it's through work, on the bus, or while being waited on at a restaurant or supermarket.
People are every, which is a fact of life.
What most people really mean when they say they want to "meet new people" then is that they want to "make new friends.
" With a population of over two hundred million in the United States alone you wouldn't think there was any shortage of potential candidates for friendship out there.
And that's million, by the way, a number so huge it's difficult to wrap your head around - that's the number of unique, individual people living their lives all around you, sharing your culture, doing the things that you do.
Clearly then, the deficiency isn't in the number of people to choose from.
Nonetheless it can seem amazingly difficult to find friends: people who are like minded, friendly, and also looking to meet new people.
The keyword here is of course "seem" - it is in actuality simple to meet people and make friends, and a few guidelines are all that's needed to make the whole process smooth and comfortable for everyone.
Of course the most obvious ways to meet people are school and work, and also at the parties, social gatherings or recommendation of existing friends.
This goes hand in hand with what I said before about us "meeting" new people every day.
You don't have to be especially clever to realize all of this.
You do, however, have to be in the right frame of mind to attract friends.
Realize a couple of things:
- A lot of people are as open to making friends as you are.
- It's easy to look at people and tell if they're not - whether they look busy, upset, or some other negative emotion.
- It's also easy to get a general idea by looking at people if you might be compatible.
- Smiles truly are disarming.
All that is necessary to do this is to slow down for a couple of minutes to really interact in a meaningful way with the people who surround you in the present moment.
(If you're always in a rush to your next destination, you're not likely to stop and talk to anybody!) When I mentioned how you can look at people and tell who's compatible, I don't mean based on appearance; which is one of the biggest misconceptions people in general would do well to release.
I'm talking about their mannerisms: how they carry themselves, snippets of their dialogue you might overhear, products they might be looking at or purchasing.
These things are obvious if you're taking the time to look, and can be a perfect way to strike up a conversation.
If you're nervous about being the one to speak first--good.
Shyness is one of the biggest reasons that people don't talk to other people, not because they "don't like" certain people.
How could they, if they don't even know you? Realize that while your own shyness is causing you to keep quiet, theirs is very likely doing the same; once you break the ice, it's possible the two of you will actually get along smashingly.
Remember these thoughts the next time you go to start a discourse with a stranger, and they should bring you enough confidence to throw them a smile and actually go through with it and get started forming some great new friendships.
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