How to Talk to a Girl Without Getting Nervous
- 1). Make a list of things that worry you about your interaction with girls, and be completely honest with yourself. Even seemingly vague or inconsequential things such as "how I look" or "what to say" are actually part of your "presentational concerns," or worries about how you'll come across to the girl.
- 2). Address the concerns one at a time, until you feel confident that you have surmounted each one. For example, if your appearance is a concern, choose (or purchase) an outfit that you know you look good in, get a haircut or otherwise primp your style to be at its best.
- 3). Work on your presentation until you're confident that you can suppress your nervousness enough to at least begin the conversation with the girl. Avoid slick "pick-up lines" in favor of more honest, approachable dialogue; "I really like your jacket" or "What do you think of this place?", for example.
- 4). Repeat confidence-boosting maxims to yourself just prior to the interaction. Things such as, "You can do this" and "This is easy, don't worry about it" are simple but powerful ways to calm yourself down and get control of your own thoughts.
- 5). Take several deep breaths before plunging into the conversation. In times of stress, the human body is taking shallow, panicked breaths that further cloud the ability to think clearly; by breathing deeply, you'll slow your heart rate and be calmer.
- 6). Be confident when speaking to the girl; stand up straight, look her in the eye, breath slowly and deeply, and weigh your words carefully before you respond to what she says.
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