My dear Ezine readers, I have been making an endeavor to revolve around my debate as to how to check ever increasing Adolescence Suicide Syndrome (ASS) in our teenagers.
Though I have by and large covered the entire range of issues but my experiences further reveal that there is one factor which can change the course of decision of your teenager provided parents understand their wards and remain firm in their dealing.
After debating considerably on Third Suicidal Factors (TSF), I would now try to analyze the basic issue of my famous synonymous of ABC.
The ABC is the true Alma matter of my study on recurring cases of adolescence suicide.
If all the three important people, who deal with the teenager's formative years; that is Parent, Teacher and friends, understand and analyze the ABC chemistry of each other, the parents would always find the key of solution of their teenagers all problems with in themselves.
Why ABC and not any other factor is considered most essential would be left to the readers but the various book worm psychologist and counselors who themselves have disturbed teens represent large segment of money minting machine.
I have observed that after the death of a teenager, such people become very active to propagate their shop business.
I am pained to see a large row of such psychologists and counselorsdecorating their shops for poor parents to step in not to save their teenager but to doll out hundreds of dollar to such businessmen psychoanalyst.
On and off, when I see hundreds of counseling shop mushrooming in every nook and corner of the world near examinations, I feel pity of such people who have made the noble cause of saving my teenagers life a business.
Infact, the over burdened and over tired parents have nothing to look than getting lured by such hawks.
I would request all the readers to join me in saving teenagers life through Ezine as well by distributing the preventive measures to maximum schools and colleges, working people on the planet.
Let me define my true perception of ABC of ASS; ·A definesAttitude; ·B represents Behavior; and ·C indicates Changes.
The first factor which drives teenagers to commit suicide is really the Attitude.
I am not going to define as to what is the literal meaning to Attitude; but I would elaborate in saying that if parents miscalculated the Attitudinal changes of their wards after some debate to even point zero, zero, zero percent, rest assure your teenager would commit suicide.
All would agree with me that most of the teenagers' attitude is generally inconsistence with respect to their normal behavior near examinations, after any untoward incidence or some other reason.
If you are an observant parent, you would be able to read your wards attitude and surely take him out of the problem or else he goes to gallows willingly.
A teenager generally reflects various types of attitudinal spontaneous reactions, reflexes and impulses before any important actions in his/her day to day routine life.
I have categorized these reflex changes in to three categories; ·One; Positive Attitudinal Approach (PAA).
Why I call it PAA is to clearly make parents understand the correct attitude of their teenagers.
I have noted that all teenagers who have well prepared and know their subjects well and they often reflect PAA.
Such teenagers are generally cool, calm and comfortable with their preparations.
They often show confidence and maturity in routine activities but often get very temperamental if something goes wrong.
They, at the nick of moment take decision to end their life.
However, they leave very prominent what I termed is the Adverse Decision Attitudinal Signatures (ADAS).
I have observed that such teenagers generally pass through four different state of mental stress to form their decision and take a quick action.
Often I heard parents saying, he was fine a few minute before his death but what happened suddenly, they do not know that their teenager had committed suicide.
These four mental stress stages are identified as; o 1) Depression; o 2) Balance; o 3) Conflicting; and o 4) Retarded.
I often educate parents that must correctly know about the sensitivity of their wards towards happiness and unhappy conditions.
The extremities of both are dangerous at all the times.
Such teenagers leave following ADAS disturbed activities at home: o Teenagers react violently or just retires hurt; o Often coming late from school or outside; o He tries to remain alone or insist of leaving him alone; o Three walks friskily and aimlessly within room; o Repeatedly tries to blame self for any failures; o Does not cry but exhibits anger, tensions and stress; and o Wants no one to disturb him; I suggest that if parents observe any of the reflexes in their wards, you are advice to interact with him/her and find out the true causes of disturbance, increase communication with them and repeatedly reinforce your point that his life is more precious than worldly objectives.
·Two; Negative Reversal Riposte (NRR).
Another essential indicator is NRR conduct.
I specially call it conduct because it is more to do with teenager's activities rather than silent sufferings.
After any disturbed incidence a teenagers reflects o Violent conduct; o Sometimes exhibits abusive and foul mouth jingoism; o Tries or threatens to use force if disturbed; o Just does not want to communicate; o Opposes parents every approach of love and compassion on the pretext of Leave Me Alone (LMA); and o Exhibits agitated impatient and restless actions of body.
I recommend and suggest that parents should look for above activities of their wards whenever your teenager is passing through some important life stages.
·Three; Mixed Compromising Responses (MCR).
After analyzing PAA and NRR, now I would share my study on MCR attitude.
Such teenagers exhibiting MCR are generally mediocre and Middle Order Study Groups (MOSG) of studies out of Extremely High, High, Low and Lowest Order of Study Groups.
Such teenagers are very difficult to judge but their ADAS are most inconspicuous and obvious.
They go to both extreme with meek and submissive attitude.
The percentage of such teenagers is barely .
5% but still there is a scope of preventing their suicide.
Every teenager can find himself in one or the other category of Attitude.
What should parent look in such teenagers is any extreme act of silence or violence.
Both indicators would suffice enough to interact with teenagers to prevent suicide.
After analyzing about the attitude, now I would deliberate over the Behavioral Indicating Symptoms (BIS), which generally teenagers do reflect before committing suicide.
These BIS are more or less very difficult to identify and act up on until unless parents, teachers and friends are in regular touch with teenagers.
I have divided the BIS as under: ·Submission BIS.
(SBIS).
I have normally seen that as and when some question paper or any action of teenager has not gone as per parent's aspirations, the teenagers become very defensive and reactive.
Teenagers often try to hide the fact through mouth but always reflect through their Attitude.
The change in Behavior is due to fear, anxiety and threat of physical man handling by father or mother.
The teenagers on every pretext become willing and obedient follower.
During examinations if parents observe any such BIS they are advised not to take it lightly but sit to discuss the issue and take out fear from your teenager mind.
I have come across a case where a teenager had committed suicide by jumping in front of train due to fear.
It was all his submissive behavior due to which he could not openly interact with parent and committed suicide under doubtful faith.
I suggest: o Parents should continuously interact with teenager and their friends; o Keep a watch on his friends circle and their routine activities.
If you observe any change please sit and interact with your teenager to resolve the hidden problem; o Often sit once a week with your ward to share his school work by checking the teacher remarks.
o Always commit to your teenager that you have total faith in them therefore, they should also have same.
o Never let fear of punishment take over your child mental balance otherwise you can not stop him from committing suicide.
·Repulsive BIS (RBIS); The RBIS is very common and often seen amongst 11th/12th Standard teenagers.
Though it is more or less similar to ARR but often parents get deceived by teenagers' what I coined is Short Reactive Repulsive Actions (SRRA).
I have seen that parents take such action of their teenagers as common and later regret for not taking their teenagers words or action seriously.
If parents study and maintain a regular contact they would be able to detect SRRA and take preventive measure to save the life.
Generally those parents who are working overtime to earn two times meal often face such losses.
I would suggest that parents should be in direct touch with their wards even if their wards have exhibited once RBIS and SRRA during examinations.
Rest assures some major problem has occurred for which your teenagers want to express through SRRA.
Parents are requested to: o Spent minimum half a day with you wards even if you have take off days from work; o Make sure you leave and pick your teenagers from home to school and back during these few days; o Divert your teenagers' attention by taking him on outing once during the Peak Examination Stress Duration (PESD).
I count, chemistry, mathematic, physic and biology papers time as PESD.
o Share minimum once the lighter moment with your teenager and all other siblings.
·Withdrawal BIS (WBIS); though I have been able to look a few supportive measure to prevent suicide but I found extremely difficult in identifying a teenagers having suffered a WBIS.
Such teenagers are difficult to asses and very deceptive in their approach.
They would generally behave normally but suddenly carryout one odd action indicating WBIS.
Such teenagers often commit suicide by hanging in case of boys and cutting their veins in case of girls.
While studying about such teenagers I detected a special behavior which I term as Lock in Period Syndrome (LIPS).
The only symptom which match such teenagers' behavior.
Before committing Suicides such teenagers perform the acts of locking in themselves in rooms inadvertently with out any p[provocation due to self guilt andremorse of failure.
I suggest that parents should never: o Be sarcastic to your teenagers failures; o Never insult in public; o Always encourage his failure on occurrence to take corrective measures at later stage; and o Dilute the effect of failure by sharing some joke and laughter experiences of someone in vicinity; and o Never leave your teenager alone for even a moment for over a month after the incidence.
I am very assertive now that my readers would have ascertained the true picture of AB and C.
The word C for change is most prudent to analyze and practical to adopt.
What happens when something goes wrong with you.
You reflect an immediate change in your attitude and behavior.
I feel that similar trauma is also experience by immature teenagers before they commit suicide.
Some of type of changes I have discovered after detailed study are: ·Momentous Small Changes (MSC).
While searching for changes, I found out that MSC one of the indicator before a teenager committed suicide.
He returned after hearing his 10th standard result against his expectations and immediately decided to commit suicide.
He shouted to every one that he would die but none took his words seriously and with in half an hour of his announcement he consumed pesticide to end his life.
Such MSC changes are very uncommon but indicators are very predominantly clear.
I suggest that parents should act a bit maturely and carefully while sharing adverse results with their teenagers.
Look for impromptu reactions and remain in regular touch with your ward.
·Short and Rapid Changes (SARC); These SARC are very common in hyper sensitive teenagers.
They are difficult to judge but easy to identify.
They give enough indicators before ending their life.
Such teenagers immediately react violently within a very short period with enough noises and dramas.
They would often fall unconscious and require sensitive handling.
Parents must remain in regular touch and constantly advice their wards to work hard for own satisfaction rather than competing with others and getting hypertension.
Do not leave your ward alone during examinations or any time of test.
·Impulsive Fast Changes (IFC); these changes are also more or less SARC but often go unnoticed by parents.
Quite a few teenagers show very strange change in their routine behavior but very prominently exhibit their conduct.
I suggest that parents should look for: o Uncontrolled and inconsolable screams; o Teenagers hysterical behavior; o Pushing and repulsive body language; Most the teenagers even ensure that their parents or teachers have noticed the change in their conduct.
If it is ignored, he commits suicide; and if responded, your teenager recovers from the shock and survives.
·Silent Deceptive Changes (SDC); the SDC behavior difference is by and large noticed in over 80% of teenagers who had committed suicide.
It is very easy to detect but very simple to mislead the parents.
Teenagers more or less behave normally but sometimes reacts violently to register his/her state of mind.
Often such teenagers pick up fights with other siblings and reply meekly to parents giving indication of disturbed and conflicting state of mind.
One can easily detect if he is in regular touch with his teenager or else very difficult.
Sometimes other sibling can also make out disturbed state of mind and alert parents before teenagers commits suicide.
In two incidences, I have found that younger sibling were able to alert their parents to save their sisters live.
Parents should look for: o Sudden change in daily activities; o Change in conduct an humorous teenager turns into silent sufferer; o Do not mixes ups and opposes every step of parents trying to find out the cause by saying "Nothing is Wrong Approach (NIWA).
Parents should not give up just on fake assurance of teenagers but go into deep analysis for their changes attitude.
I hope, I have deliberated enough about the ABC of ASS.
Nevertheless, there is a need to spread this education through network to benefit maximum teenagers, parents and teachers.
Though my analyses have targeted both parents and teachers; but I would also exclusively debate about the role of materialistic teacher of modern age and true teachers of humanity.