"Drop envy and jealousy, otherwise there is no possibility - because love cannot exist where envy and jealousies exist.
Then your search is only for a certain type of power: that in the name of love you are just trying to fulfill the ego.
And it is arduous to drop, because love exists only when all the negative elements of the mind are dropped.
It is very arduous.
" -OSHO The other day, in a forum, someone asked, how to handle jealousy.
Let me tell you what I do when I am jealous.
First things first, do not consider yourself bitchy when you feel jealous.
We are human beings, we are created with equal amount of darkness and light.
It is we who later fight back our dark side and explore the light within us.
That process is a long journey...
during this process, it is okay to feel envious of others' prosperity, love, luck and anything that you wish to possess.
Our mind is a tricky thing...
and when I say, we are not our mind, that means we are a separate entity, which is not defined by what our mind make us feel like.
If you are feeling jealous, do not feel bad.
Rather find a way to trick the tricky mind.
Do not try to suppress the feeling of jealousy.
The more you suppress, the more intense it would be.
Accept that you are jealous.
Why are you jealous? You are jealous when you see others have what you want to have...
but do not have.
You do not actually like the feeling of jealousy, as it annoys you at the back of your mind.
"Why would I be jealous?" You deny yourself having this feeling.
Your mind is playing this game.
Accept that the thing you wish to possess, you do not have, but you desire to have.
Accept that you do not have that right now.
Your friend, colleague, whoever has it, it is not that you do not want them to have it.
Just that you do not want to be left behind.
You also must have it.
Okay! Sit down.
Take a deep breath! Now think of the thing of your desire, for which you are feeling jealous.
Initially, you will hate to accept that the person has it and you do not have.
You will feel anger towards that person, do not escape, let yourself feel it.
Just remember, your thoughts are not you.
You be present there, when your mind is building those thought bubbles.
Slowly, you will witness the hatred subsiding...
then it is time to separate the person from the object of your desire, what he has and you do not have.
Shift your focus from that person to the object of your desire.
Completely forget about what the person.
Just imagine what you will do when you have it.
Think, how you will get it, how happy will you feel after having it.
It is not the person who makes you jealous.
It is the object of your desire, your love for the object or person, that makes you sad that you do not have it.
Separating the person from the thing of desire solves the problem.
You will be relieved to know that you do not hate that person, you are just sad for not having it.
You forget about the person, and think of the object of desire.
Automatically you will replace the negative feeling with love.
Every time jealousy pricks you, just practice it.
Separate the object of your desire from the person.
Think about a promotion, a good body, money, power, love...
think about how to have it.
This way, you feel love, feel hopeful.
Jealousy subsides...
because you do not have any reason when you know you will eventually get it one day.
This is how competition becomes healthy and positive.