Get Ready For the Marital Life!
Most of the people are under the misconception that getting ready for the marital life means getting ready for a sexual life.
On getting the news that you are going to get engaged, even your friends sometimes sarcastically make a comment upon you that you are going to lose your freedom once and for all; for a few months you may not even have time to meet them since you are going to be preoccupied with your personal life.
It is not entirely true.
Despite sex being the part of the marital life, it does not pre-dominate the marital life.
Entering into a marital life means that you are entering into a higher plane of relationship.
Whether your marriage is a love marriage or an arranged marriage, you are going to have a partner to share your works, feelings, thoughts and the responsibilities.
Now you are more concerned here about a vital question: how to be prepared for the forthcoming marital life? Some of you may even ask, 'After all life is a learning process; why don't I remain my true self and learn anything new after entering into the marital life and getting adjusted accordingly?' You know pretty well that planning is very vital in every venture and every part of your life.
Your marital life is no exception.
In case of a love marriage, you are blessed and doubly advantageous; you have an opportunity to know about your life partner before hand, his or her income, his or her interests, his or her likes and dislikes, his or her characteristic qualities and so on.
You get to know all these things by having frequent interaction with him or her, when you are in love with him or her.
If you are getting a life partner through an arranged marriage, it is always better to have a series of interactions with your fiancee before the marriage so that you can feel at ease when you enter the marital home.
Moreover, such interactions will also help you to find out any bogus claims made by your future life partner so that you can be on guard against him or her.
Besides, getting married also means getting a new life partner; besides, you also have to move with a number of other people at the marital home like your future in-laws, your future life partner's brothers, sisters and his other relatives.
If you are well informed about everything about your proposed life partner, you can very well device a scheme or a plan of dealing with them.
On the other hand, if you are not well informed and well equipped in your marital home, there is every chance and possibility of having a starting trouble at your marital home, leading to misunderstandings, ill feelings, mental tension, agony and torture; it may even lead to breakdown of of your marriage.
Now coming to the sexual life.
If you are inured to a dating culture, perhaps you may not have any problem in your marital life as far as your sex life is concerned.
But if you hail from a culture in which premarital sex is a taboo, it is better to equip yourself at least with a rudimentary knowledge of sex than remain a novice at your bed room.
Nothing wrong in seeking the advice from your close friends who are already married or from the elders of your home.
But sometimes your elders may not be at ease, when they discuss sexual topics or problems with you.
Then you have to consult books.
You should note that if you are successful in your sex life with your partner, he or she may have more love and affection towards you, which may in turn be very helpful in solving many other problems in the marital life.
Whether you are a male or a female, before embarking upon into your sexual life, please see that you always remain fresh, neat and clean; take care to dress properly; don't forget to use the cosmetics like soap, scent etc that your partner likes most.
Always be relaxed and free yourself from any tension.
You should fulfill the legitimate sexual desire of your life partner without any inhibition.
If your sex life is satisfactory, it will take care of everything at the marital home.
Therefore, you should always be prepared for a very good sexual life.
Therefore, before getting married, it is always good to prepare yourself for the forthcoming marital life; it may help you to be at ease at the marital home, besides helping you to solve many other problems so easily that you may encounter there.
On getting the news that you are going to get engaged, even your friends sometimes sarcastically make a comment upon you that you are going to lose your freedom once and for all; for a few months you may not even have time to meet them since you are going to be preoccupied with your personal life.
It is not entirely true.
Despite sex being the part of the marital life, it does not pre-dominate the marital life.
Entering into a marital life means that you are entering into a higher plane of relationship.
Whether your marriage is a love marriage or an arranged marriage, you are going to have a partner to share your works, feelings, thoughts and the responsibilities.
Now you are more concerned here about a vital question: how to be prepared for the forthcoming marital life? Some of you may even ask, 'After all life is a learning process; why don't I remain my true self and learn anything new after entering into the marital life and getting adjusted accordingly?' You know pretty well that planning is very vital in every venture and every part of your life.
Your marital life is no exception.
In case of a love marriage, you are blessed and doubly advantageous; you have an opportunity to know about your life partner before hand, his or her income, his or her interests, his or her likes and dislikes, his or her characteristic qualities and so on.
You get to know all these things by having frequent interaction with him or her, when you are in love with him or her.
If you are getting a life partner through an arranged marriage, it is always better to have a series of interactions with your fiancee before the marriage so that you can feel at ease when you enter the marital home.
Moreover, such interactions will also help you to find out any bogus claims made by your future life partner so that you can be on guard against him or her.
Besides, getting married also means getting a new life partner; besides, you also have to move with a number of other people at the marital home like your future in-laws, your future life partner's brothers, sisters and his other relatives.
If you are well informed about everything about your proposed life partner, you can very well device a scheme or a plan of dealing with them.
On the other hand, if you are not well informed and well equipped in your marital home, there is every chance and possibility of having a starting trouble at your marital home, leading to misunderstandings, ill feelings, mental tension, agony and torture; it may even lead to breakdown of of your marriage.
Now coming to the sexual life.
If you are inured to a dating culture, perhaps you may not have any problem in your marital life as far as your sex life is concerned.
But if you hail from a culture in which premarital sex is a taboo, it is better to equip yourself at least with a rudimentary knowledge of sex than remain a novice at your bed room.
Nothing wrong in seeking the advice from your close friends who are already married or from the elders of your home.
But sometimes your elders may not be at ease, when they discuss sexual topics or problems with you.
Then you have to consult books.
You should note that if you are successful in your sex life with your partner, he or she may have more love and affection towards you, which may in turn be very helpful in solving many other problems in the marital life.
Whether you are a male or a female, before embarking upon into your sexual life, please see that you always remain fresh, neat and clean; take care to dress properly; don't forget to use the cosmetics like soap, scent etc that your partner likes most.
Always be relaxed and free yourself from any tension.
You should fulfill the legitimate sexual desire of your life partner without any inhibition.
If your sex life is satisfactory, it will take care of everything at the marital home.
Therefore, you should always be prepared for a very good sexual life.
Therefore, before getting married, it is always good to prepare yourself for the forthcoming marital life; it may help you to be at ease at the marital home, besides helping you to solve many other problems so easily that you may encounter there.
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