Repair Relationships With a Love Letter
In a healthy, thriving relationship, there are bound to be occasional disagreements and squabbles. Most often it is over something that on hindsight seems ridiculous and insignificant. However, sometimes the damage has been done. Harsh words were exchanged while emotions were riding high and feelings are already hurt. When time passes, often one of the couple realizes that the “fight” was over something so ridiculous, and that it could have been handled in a more amiable and compromising manner. When both parties are willing to compromise after a fight, relationship repair can begin. But how does one initiate the compromise? This is where a love letter can come in to help.
We humans have a built-in desire to avoid unpleasant situations. But can a ‘fight’ situation have been avoided? During the “fight” probably not. But after some time, when the situation cools down and rationale take over, this is the time when solutions can be found. One thing we must realize, is that we are all humans and emotions do rule the day sometimes and because of that, situations turn ugly and the best of relationships do experience their occasional kinks. As long as there is no physical abuse or any irreversible conditions, most situations can be repaired.
It takes a couple of things to happen if there is going to be any relationship repair.
1. The couple must realize that there is more at stake than winning the argument. There is something bigger and more precious that needs to be preserved and treasured. Both stand to lose a lot more if no party wishes to relent or compromise in the argument. In worst case scenario, the couple will no longer be a couple. Life will be without each other’s presence. If there is strong love and respect for each other, this aspect of “more to lose” alone will help to iron out all the disagreements and solutions can be found.
2. There must be willingness to compromise from both parties. In most circumstances in an argument, there is no right and wrong side, only differing views. The argument comes up is because each party does not want to understand the other person’s point of view. Both must acknowledge this difference of views and a compromise sought.
When these aspects are established, the best way to reconcile is to spend some time away from each other and look at the argument rationally. Start to develop a love letter to repair the relationship. Write down your thoughts without the influence of negative emotions, then explain your point of view and end with a love note for the other person expressing how important and significant the other person is in your life. This will open up avenues for reconciliation and renewed bonding. This love letter will help to present the different views without the shouting match and also express the ‘love’ for each other.
It is vital to have the ‘love’ part in the love letter which stresses on the “more to lose” point above. There are many benefits in a written love letter. The love letter of this nature gives you the opportunity to control, retract, and re-word your thoughts without any damage. The time spent writing the love letter will calm negative emotions as well as put things into real perspective. So the next time you have strong emotions, try writing it in a letter and see if you still have the same feeling after some time. Writing the love letter in this manner will help to put things into perspective and helps to determine what is important to each other. So the next time, you feel an argument brewing, take some time off and write a love letter instead. There is another interesting benefit with such a love letter that it can be saved and kept into a scrapbook for memories.
We humans have a built-in desire to avoid unpleasant situations. But can a ‘fight’ situation have been avoided? During the “fight” probably not. But after some time, when the situation cools down and rationale take over, this is the time when solutions can be found. One thing we must realize, is that we are all humans and emotions do rule the day sometimes and because of that, situations turn ugly and the best of relationships do experience their occasional kinks. As long as there is no physical abuse or any irreversible conditions, most situations can be repaired.
It takes a couple of things to happen if there is going to be any relationship repair.
1. The couple must realize that there is more at stake than winning the argument. There is something bigger and more precious that needs to be preserved and treasured. Both stand to lose a lot more if no party wishes to relent or compromise in the argument. In worst case scenario, the couple will no longer be a couple. Life will be without each other’s presence. If there is strong love and respect for each other, this aspect of “more to lose” alone will help to iron out all the disagreements and solutions can be found.
2. There must be willingness to compromise from both parties. In most circumstances in an argument, there is no right and wrong side, only differing views. The argument comes up is because each party does not want to understand the other person’s point of view. Both must acknowledge this difference of views and a compromise sought.
When these aspects are established, the best way to reconcile is to spend some time away from each other and look at the argument rationally. Start to develop a love letter to repair the relationship. Write down your thoughts without the influence of negative emotions, then explain your point of view and end with a love note for the other person expressing how important and significant the other person is in your life. This will open up avenues for reconciliation and renewed bonding. This love letter will help to present the different views without the shouting match and also express the ‘love’ for each other.
It is vital to have the ‘love’ part in the love letter which stresses on the “more to lose” point above. There are many benefits in a written love letter. The love letter of this nature gives you the opportunity to control, retract, and re-word your thoughts without any damage. The time spent writing the love letter will calm negative emotions as well as put things into real perspective. So the next time you have strong emotions, try writing it in a letter and see if you still have the same feeling after some time. Writing the love letter in this manner will help to put things into perspective and helps to determine what is important to each other. So the next time, you feel an argument brewing, take some time off and write a love letter instead. There is another interesting benefit with such a love letter that it can be saved and kept into a scrapbook for memories.
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