All relationships can experience ups and downs at some stage, and this upset can bring on very difficult challenges in our lives.
On many occasions, this has led to the breakup of relationships and marriages, as couples have felt unable or incapable of dealing with the situation at hand.
It is always too late when you realize the damage is done, and that your ex-boyfriend is actually the one for you.
Unfortunately, you cannot turn back time, and it can prove very difficult to get your ex-boyfriend back again! Consider these following tips as a stepping stone to win back your love.
Establish The Cause For Separation.
It is of paramount importance to understand the reason for your relationship collapsing.
It is also critical to make a serious decision about wanting him back again or not! Bear in mind that the reason your relationship ended will always be a factor.
You need to ensure it will not happen again.
Have you been cheated on? Or have you been a victim of violent behavior? Always make a calculated decision and do not try to get your ex back fast just for the sake of it.
If need be, take some time out to think about what it is you want.
Your First Approach.
When and if you decide to repair your relationship with him, your first words and actions can be the make and break of your plan to get him back.
In order to win back your ex-boyfriend, you need to know what you are going to say, and what you are going to do prior to approaching him.
Avoid going into the situation seeming needy and lost without him.
Avoid being sad and stay positive.
Remember What You Were Like Together.
When you first started dating, what were you like back then? Try to be the person your ex fell in love with the first time around.
Have things changed with you over time which your ex has come to dislike? Have you taken an important career move and your attitude has changed because of it? Maybe you have not been yourself recently? This is not wrong, but your ex needs to understand these things.
Maybe this could be the cause for your breakup? Just try to get things back on a level playing field is all we are saying, and try to lessen the distance between you both.
Try To Be Friends.
Trying to get your ex back fast by rushing will lead to disappointment.
Initially, it would be a good idea to approach him on a friendly basis.
After some time has passed, and the mood has been allowed to settle, it will be easier to talk about what has happened.
When this opportunity arises, this is a good time to start getting back into each other's good books.
When in his company, try to recall possibly a dress and/or a blouse he liked you wearing, and wear these.
Slowly show affection towards him but do not be pushy.
If you push him too soon he will only turn away.
Re-Visit Your Past Together.
When we talk of the past, we do not mean sitting and dragging up dirt on one another.
We simply mean trying to re-live moments from the past which you both enjoyed, and have fond memories of.
Maybe you both liked to walk in the park every week, or you had a favorite restaurant? Try to develop a spark with some happy memories and feelings from your time together previously.
At the same time, allow him to know that you are there for him if he needs anything, and that you still hold a torch for him.
In order for you to get your ex-boyfriend back you need to be honest and have a positive strategy.
Do not forget the past and the reasons for your relationship initially breaking down, but just allow them to take a back seat for a while.