Respecting Your Beginnings - How Awareness and Respect in the Beginning Determines Your Success
Think back over your life and consider all the really significant 'beginnings'.
I imagine you could come up with some positive and some not.
But it's what follows that's usually more important.
Depending on how you respond at the beginning, especially in relationships, will make a huge difference to their chance of success.
We all share experiences of memorable beginnings.
As children, our first day at school, meeting new friends, then later on new workmates at work.
We mostly pick it up as we go along, having to adapt, negotiate and learn, sometimes the hard way.
We get through as children because of support from caring parents, teachers and mentors then, later, we develop our own motivation and skills.
That's if we're lucky.
In relationships it can be a little trickier to negotiate.
The degree to which we learn from parents and so develop our own awareness, is a measure of how we tend to behave at the beginning of subsequent relationships.
If we are truthful, many of us can see with hindsight, how we could have seen more clearly and behaved differently.
Perhaps you have experienced, more than once how, after an initial 'honeymoon' period, communication begins to falter or break down.
This is a clue that maybe you could appreciate more how 'weak and tender' all beginnings are.
Very often the tendency at the beginning of a romantic relationship is to 'give' so much to the other person you lose some of your Self in the process.
This is true for women mostly, but for some men too.
Then one day you may have to work hard to redress the balance, if it's not too late.
Right at the beginning, it's important to go through a process of gentle negotiation by communicating with each other.
This will result in establishing some 'ground rules' you can both accept early on in the relationship, before patterns start to form.
As a child you are forced to look to someone else to ease you into your beginnings.
As an adult, the more you truly know your Self, the more you will respect your Self and your beginnings.
Only then will you bring to them the patience, attention and clear-sightedness they deserve.
I imagine you could come up with some positive and some not.
But it's what follows that's usually more important.
Depending on how you respond at the beginning, especially in relationships, will make a huge difference to their chance of success.
We all share experiences of memorable beginnings.
As children, our first day at school, meeting new friends, then later on new workmates at work.
We mostly pick it up as we go along, having to adapt, negotiate and learn, sometimes the hard way.
We get through as children because of support from caring parents, teachers and mentors then, later, we develop our own motivation and skills.
That's if we're lucky.
In relationships it can be a little trickier to negotiate.
The degree to which we learn from parents and so develop our own awareness, is a measure of how we tend to behave at the beginning of subsequent relationships.
If we are truthful, many of us can see with hindsight, how we could have seen more clearly and behaved differently.
Perhaps you have experienced, more than once how, after an initial 'honeymoon' period, communication begins to falter or break down.
This is a clue that maybe you could appreciate more how 'weak and tender' all beginnings are.
Very often the tendency at the beginning of a romantic relationship is to 'give' so much to the other person you lose some of your Self in the process.
This is true for women mostly, but for some men too.
Then one day you may have to work hard to redress the balance, if it's not too late.
Right at the beginning, it's important to go through a process of gentle negotiation by communicating with each other.
This will result in establishing some 'ground rules' you can both accept early on in the relationship, before patterns start to form.
As a child you are forced to look to someone else to ease you into your beginnings.
As an adult, the more you truly know your Self, the more you will respect your Self and your beginnings.
Only then will you bring to them the patience, attention and clear-sightedness they deserve.
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