When we are in a relationship we are supposed our best come out of us. But most of the times with a little self help advice we can be the best. A lot of the times we have self esteem problems because of the relationships we are in. It doesn't matter if you're dating, in a marriage, or just in love. Being in these situations can make us feel better or worse about ourselves. All of us strive for love, we can fell better or worse about ourselves when we are.

While in your relationship the both of you might think that the problems are because of past lives. Maybe it's hers or maybe it's yours. It can be overwhelming trying to figure out the root of the problem. But it doesn't matter the root of the problem is now.

So the best thing to do now for your marriage or whatever relationship you are in now is to work together. By working together you both can learn to overcome the problem. One recommendation to start reading self help books and utilize the techniques the books talk about. Lets say you have a strong relationship than there is no need for self help books because you both can be strong for each other. But if you are in a need for help than seek out a marriage counselor of someone who has experience in these situations so you can get some relationship advice.

There's one thing you need to do is don't put too much pressure on yourself. Another words don't be critical of yourself. And don't be critical of your partner. The fastest way to hurt your relationship is to criticize the other person. There is no such thing as corrective criticism. There is nothing constructive about it at all. There is nothing constructive about it and all it does is show how manipulative you are and what it really means is how abusive you are. Words hurt much more than hitting someone. A relationship is not a power struggle and it shouldn't be a war. It's a time to learn about one another and to learn to love and respect one another. Don't worry about who wins the fight and who loses. End the end the both of you lose and nobody wins.

There are so many ways that you can do to save your relationship. For starters start talking to each other. But most importantly try listening. God has given you two ears and only one mouth. Use them accordingly. If you learn to listen more and talk less you will always gain the edge in your marriage or relationship. A good relationship takes work. It takes the both of you not just one. Work on building each other up and do not tear each other down. Hope things work out and take what I said to thought. Nothing good in life comes easy especially a good relationship.