Healthy Pregnancy After Multiple Miscarriages
If you've had multiple miscarriages and are ready to give up on having a baby, please read this article.
Forget the stats, forget the numbers and be ready for the chance to have a healthy pregnancy.
I must preface this article by stating that I almost exclusively write articles about our family's great pastime of camping and hiking.
That being said, we also love family, love our kids as I'm sure all parents do.
It's also important to state here that I am not a doctor and have no medical training except that of "Dr.
Mom" to three children who have run the range of sicknesses, illnesses, viruses, cuts, scrapes and broken bones over many years and there are many years of that to come.
I'm not a doctor but have done my share of Mom doctor training for sure.
My husband and I decided to try and have one more child a couple of years ago.
I had never had a problem getting pregnant and always had healthy and normal pregnancies.
Never an issue.
So when I became pregnant we were excited without a worry in the world.
But at almost 12 weeks I miscarried.
It was a devastating experience as I'm sure so many women can relate to.
After the initial shock we believed it was probably due to my age.
And then the research began on maternal age, old eggs, chances of miscarriage due to my age (41 at the time) and the chances of having another miscarriage.
When we decided to try again I miscarried twice more.
Three miscarriages in a short time period.
Getting pregnant for me wasn't the problem, just staying pregnant it seemed.
Again, we chalked it up to my maternal age and the fact that my eggs were just getting too darn old.
Reading the statistics on miscarriage on every medical site we could find and talking to a couple of doctors we did feel somewhat hopeless.
The stats were against us, there really was no chance of having a baby again.
I might be able to get pregnant but I would surely miscarry over and over.
The percentage of me carrying a baby to term was just not worth it as far as the numbers game went.
Leaving it to chance for a little while longer I did become pregnant for the fourth time in a row and at 10 1/2 weeks I lost our fourth pregnancy.
That was it for me, enough was enough.
The physical and the emotional toll were so great and took so long to recover from.
So we decided to not try again and be extra thankful for the family we had.
We truly were blessed and we did know it.
Here's where the story takes a great turn though and I want to offer hope to other women in a similar situation.
Deciding to give up I became pregnant one more time.
I was wishing it hadn't happened, I knew I would have to endure another miscarriage.
It was a hopeless situation and we knew it.
But when I was 12 weeks along we decided we better call our doctor and we had all the tests run to determine everything possible about this little baby.
Not only is she healthy and as chromosomally normal as any test can detect, she's a busy little baby moving and kicking in my belly every day now.
And at 23 weeks we feel very confident that our newest addition to our family will arrive into a welcoming and loving family mid-summer.
Of course we know that anything can happen, I haven't delivered yet but the point is even after 4 miscarriages in a row and my age it is possible to beat the odds, to show the stats that they are wrong sometimes and if it's meant to happen it will.
This baby was meant to be, our family was meant to grow and I now look at stats a little differently.
If you are feeling despair over having one or more miscarriages and you are otherwise healthy with no medical reasons for not having a healthy baby then please take my story as inspiration or hope if you will.
Don't fixate on stats and numbers and what the doctors will quote you for your low chances of having a successful pregnancy.
It is very possible to have a baby, no matter your age.
Yes, our eggs do age but there are still good ones in there and it's just a matter of the good ones being picked out.
I think a little extra patience and understanding are more important and crucial to pay attention to then your odds according to medical science.
What was meant to be will be and it isn't worth giving up based on numbers alone.
Sharing my story is my way of offering hope which I wish I had found during my stages of sadness.
May you be blessed with a baby if that is indeed what you want for your family.
Forget the stats, forget the numbers and be ready for the chance to have a healthy pregnancy.
I must preface this article by stating that I almost exclusively write articles about our family's great pastime of camping and hiking.
That being said, we also love family, love our kids as I'm sure all parents do.
It's also important to state here that I am not a doctor and have no medical training except that of "Dr.
Mom" to three children who have run the range of sicknesses, illnesses, viruses, cuts, scrapes and broken bones over many years and there are many years of that to come.
I'm not a doctor but have done my share of Mom doctor training for sure.
My husband and I decided to try and have one more child a couple of years ago.
I had never had a problem getting pregnant and always had healthy and normal pregnancies.
Never an issue.
So when I became pregnant we were excited without a worry in the world.
But at almost 12 weeks I miscarried.
It was a devastating experience as I'm sure so many women can relate to.
After the initial shock we believed it was probably due to my age.
And then the research began on maternal age, old eggs, chances of miscarriage due to my age (41 at the time) and the chances of having another miscarriage.
When we decided to try again I miscarried twice more.
Three miscarriages in a short time period.
Getting pregnant for me wasn't the problem, just staying pregnant it seemed.
Again, we chalked it up to my maternal age and the fact that my eggs were just getting too darn old.
Reading the statistics on miscarriage on every medical site we could find and talking to a couple of doctors we did feel somewhat hopeless.
The stats were against us, there really was no chance of having a baby again.
I might be able to get pregnant but I would surely miscarry over and over.
The percentage of me carrying a baby to term was just not worth it as far as the numbers game went.
Leaving it to chance for a little while longer I did become pregnant for the fourth time in a row and at 10 1/2 weeks I lost our fourth pregnancy.
That was it for me, enough was enough.
The physical and the emotional toll were so great and took so long to recover from.
So we decided to not try again and be extra thankful for the family we had.
We truly were blessed and we did know it.
Here's where the story takes a great turn though and I want to offer hope to other women in a similar situation.
Deciding to give up I became pregnant one more time.
I was wishing it hadn't happened, I knew I would have to endure another miscarriage.
It was a hopeless situation and we knew it.
But when I was 12 weeks along we decided we better call our doctor and we had all the tests run to determine everything possible about this little baby.
Not only is she healthy and as chromosomally normal as any test can detect, she's a busy little baby moving and kicking in my belly every day now.
And at 23 weeks we feel very confident that our newest addition to our family will arrive into a welcoming and loving family mid-summer.
Of course we know that anything can happen, I haven't delivered yet but the point is even after 4 miscarriages in a row and my age it is possible to beat the odds, to show the stats that they are wrong sometimes and if it's meant to happen it will.
This baby was meant to be, our family was meant to grow and I now look at stats a little differently.
If you are feeling despair over having one or more miscarriages and you are otherwise healthy with no medical reasons for not having a healthy baby then please take my story as inspiration or hope if you will.
Don't fixate on stats and numbers and what the doctors will quote you for your low chances of having a successful pregnancy.
It is very possible to have a baby, no matter your age.
Yes, our eggs do age but there are still good ones in there and it's just a matter of the good ones being picked out.
I think a little extra patience and understanding are more important and crucial to pay attention to then your odds according to medical science.
What was meant to be will be and it isn't worth giving up based on numbers alone.
Sharing my story is my way of offering hope which I wish I had found during my stages of sadness.
May you be blessed with a baby if that is indeed what you want for your family.
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