He dumped you.
It hurts, and it's depressing.
If you're looking to fight your way back into your man's heart, you'll need to know exactly how to avoid becoming his ex-girlfriend.
No breakup is permanent until your ex moves on mentally, emotionally, and even physically.
You'll need to act fast to avoid being categorized as someone he won't date again.
At the same time, getting back together usually takes time.
In short, you need to be proactive about making him want you back, but you also need to be patient and wait for the reconciliation to happen naturally.
Your ex won't take you back until he wants you again.
This won't happen until you make your exboyfriend miss you.
You do this by sticking to the following guidelines, each of which is the exact opposite of what your former boyfriend expects you to do: Agree With The Break Up - Watching carefully for your reaction will be one of the first things that happens after you get dumped.
Your ex will expect you to be upset.
But instead of crying and fighting him on the end of the relationship, imagine his reaction of you just nod your head.
Tell him yes, things aren't working out so well between you.
Maybe breaking up is the right thing to do.
Now picture yourself giving him a quick hug and then walking away...
and more importantly, picture your ex-boyfriend's face as you do this.
He's going to be astonished.
Suddenly he's wondering how long you felt like the relationship wasn't working, and how he didn't see such a thing coming.
It's almost like you're stealing his thunder - you're actually breaking up with him, and putting yourself in control.
Trumping him on the break up speech is only one way to accomplish this task.
If the break up already happened, you can still agree with it by going completely silent and dropping out of your ex's sight.
After a few days, send him a short handwritten note telling him that yes, you agree - breaking up is the best thing for the both of you.
Don't write anything else, and especially don't call or email or text him.
If and when your ex contacts you, ignore the message.
This will put him into a place where he's uncertain as to what you're doing.
Maybe you've got another agenda, maybe you're finally done with him...
these things will rattle your exboyfriend, even though he's the one who initiated the break up.
Show No Sign of Depression - When someone ends a relationship, they expect the other person to be depressed.
Although he's no longer around you, your ex is expecting to see or hear about you staying in your house, crying, and spending time alone.
If he gets this idea, he'll feel comfortable and secure.
You need to force him out of that comfort zone by showing him that you're not upset.
Not only that, you're going to show him that you're thrilled to have all this new free time.
Get out and have fun, see friends, go to a few parties.
Smile and laugh.
Make sure your ex knows you're not affected a single bit by what happened.
If you talk about your breakup with friends, swear them to silence.
The less information he gets about you being upset the better.
Deny all Contact With Your Ex - No matter what happens, one of the greatest things you can do after your ex dumps you is to go completely silent.
He might try to call you, or he may shoot you an email to see how you're doing.
What he's doing is feeling you out, testing the waters of your break up.
Keeping in touch with you after breaking up gives him the security of knowing where you are and what you're up to, should he decide to change his mind.
But while you're in touch with him? He'll never change his mind.
Because quite simply, he doesn't need to.
Not knowing where you are forces your exboyfriend to wonder.
This gives him the chance to consider a life without you completely - not even as a casual friend.
This is probably not what he signed up for when he broke up with you.
Your ex expects to at least stay in touch on some level, and he may even have said those dreaded three words "Let's be friends".
Few girls who fall for that end up getting back an ex boyfriend.
They usually fall into one of two categories: friend or lover.
You don't want to be either.
You want your ex boyfriend to date you again, not hang out as a buddy or give you a call whenever he needs a quick hookup.
So before you can answer the question 'How do I get my ex back?', first ask how you can make him want you back in the first place.
Once you do that, the rest is easy.