This is a true story about love which blossomed to die with me only - a love that could not materialize into marriage but had a deep impact on my life.
The purpose of telling this story is to once again re-iterate the power of love.
Learn from mistakes and it is much better to learn from others mistakes rather than waiting to commit oneself and then learn.
My story itself is long but the associated happy period was short.
It had a everlasting impact on me.
The story goes like this.
  Rosy Joy - name changed but initials kept same to maintain the same piousness which actual RJ has.
Rosy Joy was obviously a girl but not simply a girl next door.
She hails from a decent family (I must admit a lively one!).
She is an ambitious girl, already attained much success, and I am sure one day she will be known worldwide for her noble actions.
She kept coming in my life again and again but I could not get married to her.
No regrets.
She had not reciprocated my love but gave me much more than love.
She indirectly taught me several lessons in one go.
Here are some of them:  Love can make you achieve anything: It was not love at first sight but the love at 0th sight.
I was in love the moment I saw her photograph.
Believe me, it was not infatuation but a true budding love.
It began in 1999 short while after joining my first job.
Although a fresher but I was doing so much work efficiently and with responsibility as a decade old employee.
Achieving success and working honestly is in our family but the real driving force was the true love for RJ that was pumping my blood.
No one can (including myself) recognized it until all was over.
  Writing your goals is the beginning of achievement: When you write your goals, you become objectively clear of your desires.
Now, you know what to achieve and can plan to start your journey to success.
When things between us could not materialize, I wrote a 48 pages letter to her - listing what were my plans in life.
Career wise, it was getting recognition as an outstanding professional and doing higher studies from a premiere institute.
And now, I have achieved whatever I had written to her.
There is always a women behind a successful man and for me she is none other than RJ.
  Respect the sentiments of others:  Initially, my family disapproved our marriage based on religious pretext and when things started again, her family did the same.
So, its not only you who have the power to exercise your choice but others have too.
Later, I realized how much she and her family would have got hurt.
 Obey your parents: Had I accepted my parents decision, I would not have faced the agony of life.
Parents decisions are informed ones.
They cannot see you in trouble.
So, simply but rationally follow your parent's advice.
Here is a beautiful poem about what you have given in return to your mother's love.
Be firm in your decisions: Just be bull-headed.
If decided not to do something then do not rethink about it.
When once things were not settled the way I wanted, I literally forced my parents to re-initiate the talks and materialize the things.
  Be tough: When things got over, I kept weeping (internally).
I could not concentrate on my work.
But soon after, a thought soothed my bleeding soul that she had not reciprocated my love but she had given me lessons on life which I could not have learnt better.
Love without expectations: My mother advised me: Real happiness is to see her happy wherever she is.
She can only be happy in her own ways and I should be happy to see her there.
She may not love me but it is also as true as the day which comes with sunlight only that nobody can stop me from loving her.
 Concluding lesson: I am now a happily married man with a superb wife and a cute son.
This is simply because " I forgot that I fell but looked only where I slipped".
So, it does not matter that you fall but what matters is how much you bounced back.
 And if your love is just budding then search ezinearicles.
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