Your boyfriend has ended your relationship.
You are very upset, hurt, even angry? Maybe you are hoping you can somehow patch things up with him? How to win a man back can be as simple as these 7 steps: 1.
Actions.
It is a good idea to always think before you act when it comes to how to win a man back.
Think about how your actions will appear to him (in his eyes).
For example, if you are constantly screaming at him about things, is he going to want to come back to that? Probably not.
And yes, you may have done that, or other similar behavior, already? It's okay, but I recommend to stop immediately.
At the beginning of your relationship, what kind of behavior did you have that attracted him to you? Think about that and try to display that behavior instead.
2.
Space.
He needs his space right now so it is best that you give that to him.
No contact whatsoever (no texting, emailing, calling, etc.
).
If you do need to contact him for something important, keep it brief and don't mention anything regarding the relationship or break up.
3.
You.
You need time as well.
Time to work through your pain, sadness, anger, etc.
Time to get back to a more calm and positive you.
Get the negative feelings out by talking to a friend/family member, writing in a journal, looking at and participating in relationship forums (talking to people who don't know you can sometimes be better because they can be more objective).
Some people have even found it effective to write a letter to their ex displaying all their thoughts, feelings, issues with the relationship...
and then burning that letter.
You do not want to send that letter to him.
This method has helped people to have some closure on all the negativity in that relationship.
4.
Heal.
Do things for yourself.
Exercise, eat healthy, get a new hairdo, clothes, or whatever! This will make you feel better about yourself, and maybe even more desirable to your ex, which obviously benefits you.
5.
Past.
Forgive and forget.
Whatever issues you both had in the relationship before, especially the problems that caused the break up, need to be left in the past.
Give a clean slate.
6.
Friends.
Become his friend, to start.
Don't act desperate or needy.
Just play it calm and cool.
If he wants you back, he will let you know.
This step may take some time, so please have patience.
7.
Slow.
Take things slow.
Keep physical contact to a minimum for awhile.
Yes, this may be a difficult step to accomplish but it'll be worth it in the end.
Don't forget, men tend to like the chase, it'll make you more desirable to him to play a little hard to get.