A relationship break up can be extremely difficult to deal with.
You can be left with feelings of abandonment, loss, low self-esteem and fear for the future.
These feelings can be heightened if you are still in love with your ex partner and are trying to figure out how to get him back.
In the midst of all these negative emotions, you may think that the best way to win back your lover back is to pursue him and make him aware of how devastated you are.
This may work in a situation where you have ended the relationship and are now deeply regretting this.
However, if it was your ex partner's decision to end the relationship then you need to take a wholly different approach.
So how do you get your ex to change his mind about not wanting to be with you? The answer is by behaving positively.
That means: no hysterics, no stalking, no vindictiveness, no displays of desperation...
Demonstrations of emotion driven, negative behavior are not going to win back your lover.
In fact such behavior is likely to get your ex wondering what he ever saw in you in the first instance!! You need to highlight all the positive things about you.
Don't dwell on your break up.
Get out there and engage in activities that will help to take your mind off your loss.
Show your ex that you are strong, independent person who can survive without him, if need be.
Gradually try to re-open channels of communication with your ex.
Talk about what went wrong in the relationship but try not to show how desperate you are to get back with him.
If he starts to show signs of wanting you back, at that stage you can reveal to him exactly how you feel.